II John is written to the "elect lady and her children" however, she was not a church leader, but was an exhortation to a faithful family. The N.T. church was instructed to choose men (Acts 6) for deacons and men (I Timothy 3) The Scriptures are clear. Women have a great role in the ministries of the church. They can teach, sing, and have the awesome responsibility to train the younger women (Titus 2:4) however, as a role of leadership that is up to the men! If the men don't stand up, then God will find other ways to accomplish his purpose, but placing a woman in leadership would violate Scriptures and God would never do that!