okay so a little background I go to a church where no one in the youth group is allowed to date. several months ago this kid named Sean started coming to our church he had a girlfriend but was going to break up with her, with that in mind my best friend got totally sweep of her feet by this guy. Two months after attending our youth group (with a secret girlfriend) he tells us all that he will be moving to Delaware, my best friend (Ally) panics and tells one of her gossip crazy friends that she likes him so the gossip crazy friend tells Sean. a week later he is no longer moving so Ally gets more excited(stupid hormones) not knowing that he still has a girlfriend. now that you are cot-up, After Ally found out he had a girlfriend her life was a blear of Taylor swift songs, until last night when she went up to him and said "The rest of us sit her and we have to watch the people we like go off and get girlfriends and it's really destructive so you either come to this youth group or you leave and have your girlfriend. okay?" this was totally out of character for her but I was so proud of her and so tomorrow I will probably talk to him (we are good friends) about it and hear his side. so yeah thats my life right now. Any advice?

Wow. Really, I think that was a little low of her. It seems like she's trying to use the excuse "no dating in youth group" against him to get him to break up with his girlfriend for the selfish reason that she won't have to be upset when seeing him with her. I know it hurts to see someone you really like with someone else, but try to explain to her that other people will come along. Just because she likes him doesn't give her good reason to take away happiness from the other girl. That's a recipe for disaster.

[b]NinjaUnicorn wrote:[/b] [quote] Just because she likes him doesn't give her good reason to take away happiness from the other girl. That's a recipe for disaster.[/quote] especially since the other girl is suicidal :dry:

Isn't it kinda weird that your youth group isn't allowed to date? I mean you all teens right?

that is straight up manipulation and wrong and nothing good can come out of it. you friend is about to learn a hard lesson and I hope she is prepared for the conquences of her actions. ouch

LOL at the blare of Taylor Swift stories! I think that was out of line of her, she doesn't have the right to say something like that on behalf of the whole youth group. Did she try to talk to him and explain how she felt? Getting a gossipy friend in on the action doesn't help, it in fact can only make things worse. Get her to talk things through with him so they can hear each others sides, it might pay for you to be there as a neutral friend too. When you fall for a guy who already has a girlfriend you have to be prepared for a bit heartbreak because in most causes the guy won't leave her for you and even if he did I'd be asking about commitment issues...

Yes is out of line and she did realize that and said sorry, they have talked about it but I wasn't there and from what I heard it was a level headed conversation

My advice: Use spell-check and proofread.

Quite frankly, I don't care how bad she feels. There is no call for that type of ultimatum.

I agree with Hannah and Kat. Srsly. *throws down shades*