ok well i have a friend whos life is going horribly wrong.well a while ago her dad left her mom for the nanny.then her grandma moved in which isnt that bad exept for the fact that she treats her like crap.well then she hit puberty which he realized guys excisted so that went totally wrong.me && her had a huge fight so when we made up like 3 months later she had changed a HOLE lot.not jsut physically but mentally and emotanally.Rumors started flying about her just doing all this really bad stuff. now she hardly ever sees her dad.her older sister is always gone.her mom is at work alot. && her younger siblings are in there own little world.so she looks up to these 3 girls i know who are HORRIBLE influnces for advice,friends,family etc. so i just need to know how to help her/lead her in the right direction.

you need to support her and let her know your there, and it sounds like your on the right track. just keep caring for her and praying of course. and as far as those other girls go, keep busy and keep with her as much as possible, even though it may be hard while having your own life. invite her over, go to the movies, just talk. let her know that those girls are no good. talk to her about her future, her aspirations- will hanging out with those girls help get her where she wants to go? it may take awhile, in fact i'm sure it will, but just keep trying and don't give up, she'll come around. :)

thanks! that was REALLY helpful. it's just so hard to get her away from spending most of her time with those girls. and when i do i try and talk to her but she does NOT want to hear it. i feel like it's a waste sometimes. :(

Never feel like talking to her is a waste. In fact, eventually it will get through to her and she will wake up and see the light. Trust me, my smaller sister is a party animal, and she's only 12! She goes to these parties at our neighbors where people drink and get high. In fact, on new years eve she kissed a 27 year old guy she had never met before. When she told me I was mortified and constantly kept telling her about the age difference and and the alcochol she drank. It's hard when you talk about something like that not to preach at them. But pray for her. I know a lot of people say that, but it really does work! Hope she gets better! God Bless.