I really hate making threads like this, but its been on my mind for so longs, its sucks. Anyways, I'm 19 years old and for the past couple of month I have become friends with a guy who is 9 years older then me. I kind of started liking him before we even talked. Well it was more of a crush, because I heard some stories about him. Anyways, I decided that with this guy I wouldn't persue a friendship with him. So i didn't. He started coming up to me and talking to me. One day he asked me if I would like to hang out for lunch at the college that I go to. I said sure. I went to have lunch with him, with the idea we were going as friends. We're pretty much having lunch every monday now. Except this monday, we couldn't because of his work. Yet, I still don't know if he's just a really friendly guy who wants to be my friend, or if he likes me. He's a very friendly guy and he's nice to everyone. It's weird cause at church, we're less comfortable with eachother. Yet, when we're alone, we can talk about anything. I've never had a boyfriend before or a guy who's a friend. I have had friends that were kind of my friends, but not really good friends. Anyways, I just want to know what this guys intensions are. It's driving me crazy. Also, its hard for me to believe that he would like me. I'm only 19, still living with my parents, and don't drive yet. I'm not sure if those things matter much, but besides that, we are alike in so many ways. Do you girls think this is too much of an age gap? I really don't know what's going on. errr... Okay I'm gonna just stop, and see what you girls think about this situation.

I think that as we get older, the age gap thing, doesn't matter as much as when we were younger. The answer to your question depends on the person, some people a 9 year age gap is too big of a gap, but for other people a 9 year age gap isn't too big. If you feel it is too big of an age gap, then I would not pursue anything more than a friendship. The best advice I can give you is to pray. As with most of the threads dealing with relationships, the best thing that can be done is prayer.