should you ask a guy out...or should he ask you???if you both like each other but he's shy??

Well i'm old fashion..and i dont like to do the asking.. yet I think once me and my ex told eachother.... we didn't really have to ask... we talked about courting... and so ... we didn't have to ask

I believe God created men to be the pursuers of the relationship, not to say that we girls don't have to work at it too, but if the guy is worth it, than he will man-up and take the intiative to ask you out. It's a really bad habit for a girl to get into taking the lead. Guys enjoy a bit of a chase [us letting them work to impress us], otherwise they get bored. You deserve to be pursued. You are awsome enough for a guy to have to prove that he is going to work to keep you, no matter what. I think girls these days are being to easy-to-get with their hearts and their bodies. It takes a while to figure out how to play the game of finding the right person for you. And I'm not saying that you need to date 50 guys to figure out how to get the right one. God can teach you how without you having to give your heart away to any guy, cause that's what you do when you get into a relationship, you give part of your heart away that you will never be able to get back. You just have to be patient. I recomend not dating until you are ready get married, otherwise you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. It's taken me a long time to learn this, but only one relationship. I know it sucks to hear the whole you shouldn't be dating thing. I got the same thing when I was 14 and it just made me want to do it more, but waiting is so worth it. I have never kissed or been kissed, but I can't wait until my wedding day, when my first kiss :blush: will be to the only man I will ever be with. As for right now, sometimes it is hard to not be in a relationship, but it is so amazing to fall in love with God.

Post edited by: MsKiraLynn, at: 2007/01/24 12:16

I dont know if anyone else out there is like this.. but i hate the be chased.... its so confining ... there is a real fine line with me between being chased and being prused.... and very few know how to walk that line... you know??

Well I think then that the guy that God created for you, will be able to walk that fine line. My main point was that we as girls don't make it hard enough for guys to get our hearts. Part of it is that I think a lot of us really don't value ourselves enough to say no. We settle. We have an idea of the guy we know we want, and we decide that what we are asking is to much and we settle for the first guy that shows feelings for us. That was all I was trying to say. Relationships are a much bigger deal than this world makes them out to be.