I have a question for all of you, and I hope you can help me! I was wondering what you guys all thought about us girls asking guys to dances at school. If your ok with it, do you have any ideas about how to go about doing it? I am a very nervous person when it comes to even talking to guys that I like, so it's pretty obvious that I can't ask guys out! My high school is having a Tolo dance (it's really similar to Sadie Hawkins and it's also a girls ask guys dance) at the beginning of next month, and one of my good friends suggested an idea to me. She said to take a t-shirt, write on the front in a non-black permanent marker "Will you go to Tolo with me?" and write a bunch of things in washable marker around it. She said on the back of the shirt write your name and yes or no in the same permanent marker and write a bunch of words in washable marker like you did on the front of the shirt. Then she said to have the guy take the shirt home and wash it, and he'd get the message that you want to take him to Tolo. What do you all think? I don't really have any major crushes right now, so I'm not in a hurry to ask a guy out right now, but do you think her idea could work later on? What do you guys even think about asking out? Should guys ask girls out or can girls ask guys out? Thanks for your help!

ok #1- the shirt idea seems kinda intresting..but, you might get more laughs than dates...#2- yes, the girl should ask the guy if its that kind of dance.. and #3..just be normal when you ask a guy. they should like you for who you are and not who your trying to be. just say like casually to a nice guy that you like. "hey do you have a date for the dance? if you dont we could go together, but if you dont want to i understand." guys like it when girls make that move..so be casually (not extreme) and be yourself. good luck -chelsea

Yeah, I think the shirt idea would probabaly get more laughs, but it was a clever idea, huh? lol I definately agree if I wanna go with a guy to Tolo then I should ask him, but what do you all think about girls asking guys out IN GENERAL? My problem is (besides being too nervous to ask guys out), that I wanna go out with a Christian guy and there are so many Morman guys at my school that it's not even funny (there is a big Morman church not too far from my house)! I don't wanna end up asking out a Morman guy, 'cause they are so far away from Christianity (that's according to my dad) and the Bible says to be equally yoked! I don't wanna go to a dance with a Morman guy 'cause then if we ended up likeing each other, it would be against my religion (Christianity) to go out with him! I kinda like this one guy that's in my spanish class at school, but I hardly know him and I don't even know if he's Christian or not, so I don't think I should ask him out! I would have gone to Tolo with this one Christian guy that one of my friends knows pretty good, but he's 15 or so, and can't go to stuff like that for another year or so! I was so bummed out 'cause he's CUTE and likes some of the same things I do! :( If I ever do ask a guy out, I will be sure to be myself though! Thanks for your help and encouragement, chels_rocky_hock!!! Can anyone else help me too? Thanks! horsechic1990