Okay, my friend Madison is in band camp, flute camp, and dance. She was complaining about her schedule and how she can't read but a mere 30 or so pages of a book each day. I said, "If you really want to get to read maybe you shouldn't do band camp or yur flute camp." Madison glared at me and replied, "If you're calling me a slow reader I am not your friend." So we get in a fight and I want to be her friend but she didn't seem like someone who would accuse me of hating her and never respecting her. I give her plenty of respect! She LIED to me and said she wasn't friends with Melissa, my mortal enemy, because she was afraid I'd be mad!!! I was a bit ticked but I told her she could be Medusa-I mean Melissa's friend is she wanted. Then she expects me to make snide comments in the hall. I don't say them, I think them, but I keep them to myself. Then she tells Melissa all my secrets. Instead of biting her head off I tell her I am okay wuth it and was still her friend!!! She rarely supports me and always has to rub the fact in she is in GT Math and GT English and I am only in GT Math!!! AGH!!! She just sent me a text saying she was sorry but should I really forgive her???

Heck yes you should forgive her! not only is it the right thing to do in any situation, it's what God commanded us to do for anyone, friend or not. I have a friend like this, but although she can get on my nerves, she's still a friend to me. As for the frustration for her schedual and reading, I'm sure she was just really stressed out and snapped. A lot of people have that issue, especially with 3 different things going on. As for the other friend of hers, frankly my dear, that's her choice. You cannot control her life and who she's friends with. If you don't like that, stay away when they're together or be tolerant towards this other girl's presence. How are you sure she's telling your secrets? If you're positive and she's admitted it, then yes, she's in the wrong and you need to confront her about it as adults, not teenage girls. Rubbing things in your face? It's her pride. It's annoying, i know, i have friends just like her, but it's one of those things that comes with being her friend. Just laugh it off and she'll back down. Now, you're asking if you should forgive her. You said that instead of biting her head off, you tell her that you're okay with it and are still her friend.. I think you just answered your own question. Forgive her then confront her about the problems you have. Don't shout, don't be angry. Just casualy say what you're feeling and she'll take to it gently. I hope I helped.

We are friends and we talked it all over. Melissa had read our friendship book and she learned my secrets!

well thats good that yall r friends again...i didnt post anything cause i cant really help u me and my friends the closest we have been to a fight is saying im not tlkin to u and then 3 min ltr were tlkin...but we all have so much in common and like doing the same things and all so i dont really have any complaints