So on Wednsday i came back from california and i went to church. My boyfriend broke up with me. Now i know once you read that line some of you will look at other threads but i would really appreciate it if you didnt. Anyway he told me he just needed to be alone and i told him that was fine he just need to prepare to be my best friend. Well as some of you may have guessed that hasnt been the case. And the truth is i still have feelings for him. i love him and i really miss him. We had been together almost 7 months and i truely do care for him. I try to tell myself that everything will be ok. i try to forget about him. but everytime i try to forget the more i miss him. so i ask you ladies...what do i do? :(

Take about half the time you spend talking to him and use it with some of your girl friends. GIRLS. not boys. We need no rebounds. ;) Go to stores, watch action movies or animated things like disney. No love stories. ;) Honestly girl, i'm sorry it has to be this way, but sometimes it just takes a lot of time. Don't be afraid to look at other guys as well now, just avoid doing anything about it just yet. Not until you're fully ready to give him up. Not as friend/memory, but as an all the time thought, you know? I've been there a couple times and it's so very much harder than one that's just a couple months. My inbox, as always, is open if you ever need to let loose on anything. ;) *hugs for you*

Ending a relationship is one of the most painful eventuality in one’s lifetime. A broken heart is life changing. Others move on, but if the heart is too wounded, it will no longer be the same. First issue, if you end a relationship, it must be ended properly and with closure. If you think there is still love fight for it, but if there’s no more reason to stay then let it go. Exit a relationship gracefully, with dignity. Do not think that you are a loser when everything ends. Here is some Tips: 1. Take an emotional holiday. Acknowledge all emotions. Cry hard. If alcohol helps, then fine drink with your friends. Tell the story over and over again. You have the license to be neurotic. Express your feelings. It will not only make you feel better but it will also detoxify you. After drinking, crying and being sad, you might want to feel and be in touch with your inner self. Nurture yourself with positive energies. This is the perfect time to collect yourself, meditate and plan your life ahead. 2. Don’t start a new relationship. After a break up, surely you will feel alone. This feeling will be new to you and you will miss him big time. Indeed you will need company, but definitely not another relationship. It will be unfair for the other person and you might break his heart too. It will be unfair to your heart as well because you are yearning for someone else. ‘You have the license to be neurotic after a breakup’ 3. Don’t make any major life decisions. This is a big no-no. Your judgment will not be at its best when the heart is sad. 4. Don’t use sex to ask for love. I’ve seen a lot of people who turned nasty after a very bad break up. They started having sex with anybody, hoping that they will be loved once they give in to sex. Believe me, it will just make things worse. Instead of asking for love, create love within you; conceptualize it, until you love yourself fully again. Sublimate your sexual energies into something productive like doing better in school or acing your work. It is easier said than done. God knows it is really painful to let go of your one true love. But you need to move on. It does not matter if you’re in transit for two weeks or two years, but what’s more important is your faith in love remains, and when you love again, it might be your one greatest love. Remember always believe in yourself and in love. Losing one love is not equal to losing one’s self-worth. Be grateful, for your real greatest love is still waiting for you. Good luck over your break up! EDIT: Sorry, I thought I clicked the Men forum. But still I hope this helps you out! Sorry.

But you should have left once you realized where you where!!

I noticed after I sent the message. But, I hope that helps.

[b]RyanBrashears wrote:[/b] [quote]I noticed after I sent the message. But, I hope that helps.[/quote] :ohmy: Male! In the Female Forum! *gets out pepper spray*

[b]NinjaUnicorn wrote:[/b] [quote][b]RyanBrashears wrote:[/b] [quote]I noticed after I sent the message. But, I hope that helps.[/quote] :ohmy: Male! In the Female Forum! *gets out pepper spray*[/quote] lol :laugh:

[b]NinjaUnicorn wrote:[/b] [quote][b]RyanBrashears wrote:[/b] [quote]I noticed after I sent the message. But, I hope that helps.[/quote] :ohmy: Male! In the Female Forum! *gets out pepper spray*[/quote] That was A-MAZ-ING Miss Kayla!;)

Have you tried praying and reading your bible hun? Just generally trying to get closer to God and giving Him all of your feelings? You know you can always PM me about this :)

[b]keyseya wrote:[/b] [quote]Have you tried praying and reading your bible hun? Just generally trying to get closer to God and giving Him all of your feelings? You know you can always PM me about this :)[/quote] i have and im over it but the only thing that really bothers me as you know is the fact that he isnt being my friend. the dude knows everything about me and he wont be my friend...that really sucks. and what sucks even more is i dont have the courage to talk to him about it.