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Commitment and Divorce

Anko

16 year(s) ago

The Bible doesn't seem to specifically deal with "dating", but it does mention about relationships and marriage. I was trying to go more on the subject of dating, but it didn't come out as that, so not only will I be talking about commitment in dating, but commitment in marriage (commitment in dating leads to marriage, because that's really what dating is about anyway) Proverbs 17:17: "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity." The one we date is our best friend. In dating and in marriage, you will go through rough times, but remember, a friend loves at ALL times. Good or bad. Genesis 2: 24: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." We must be dedicated with our spouse; willing to give things up for them (but make the right choices of what to give up/what to do), because it is like they are apart of us. 1 Corinthians 7:39: "A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord." Like I've said before, so many times in marriage, when people say "I do" to be there for their life partner "in sickness and in health, for better for worse", etc, they don't truly mean it. They aren't entirely committed. They let the rough times take over them, and they decide to just give up. Go into dating and go into marriage knowing that you will have troubles, but must love and be committed and dedicated and stick with them through all times. Which leads me to the subject of divorce. Malachi 2:16: "'I hate divorce', says the Lord God of Israel, 'and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment' says the Lord Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith." This verse shows how much God dislikes divorce, and it says how we must be careful and don't let problems break our faith. Again, commitment. Matthew 19:9: "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." People wonder about divorce, "What if they're in an abusive relationship? Should they not get a divorce?". No, even in abuse, I would not advice them to get divorced. If the couple doesn't get along anymore, doesn't do anything for each other, hurts other, stick with the marriage and put your trust in God. Only divorce if one or both of the couple has committed adultery. I think there was somewhere else in the Bible that also said not to divorce unless one commits adultery, I believe Paul said it, but I don't remember what the exact verse(s) is. Also, in dating/marriage, remember to keep God as your focus. Don't let involvement in your relationship take away time for praying and reading the Bible and talking to God. Remember that in everything you and your spouse go through, God is there with you, too. He has a plan for the both of you, and as neither of you should give up on each other, God won't give up on you, either.

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