Ok, here's the story. I liked this guy in my last year's Spanish class last year (that's a different guy than I was talking about in my discussion about inviting guys to dances) and some of my friends and I thought that he liked me (I'm gonna call the guy Mango, 'cause that is the name my friends and I gave him so we could talk about him and no one would know who we were talking about.) . We thought we'd seen all the signs that a guy would give you when he likes a girl (like glancing at you continually from across a room, go out of his way to give you compliments, etc.), and Mango even wrote in my yearbook that he "loved my laugh" and thought I was "nice and sweet." That just confirmed my friends and I's suspicions that Mango liked me. Well, I had Mango's number from when I worked on a Spanish improvisation with him that school year, so I called him a couple days into summer vacation and we talked for a couple awkward (spelling?) minutes and then he said he had to go eat dinner, so I told him to call me sometime soon, and he said ok and hung up. I texted him a couple times that summer and he hardly ever responded back to my texts and he never actually called me himself. I called him a couple months or so ago after we had texted again occasionaly, and that's the last time I talked to him. He never calls me or texts me, so I am thinking he doesn't like me, not even as a friend. I thought Mango was a Christian guy (he was going on a missions trip last summer, and I think it was with a Presbytirian (spelling?) church by my house) and he seemed really nice, so I was somewhat reluctant to stop calling him (my mom told me she wouldn't keep calling him 'cause he would call me if he liked me). I saw Mango at Homecoming dance and unless he didn't see me too, he never talked to me (he was with a girl, but I couldn't tell if she was his girlfriend (I don't know if he's single or not right now) or just a friend)! One of my friends suggested to try again and call him 'cause he just could be too busy to talk, but even though he is on the boy's swim and dive team at my school, he should have time to call sometime! What do you guys think I should do? Should I try to call or text this Mango or should I just ignore him completely 'cause he never calls or texts me? What should I do? Any help and/or comments grately appreciated! Thanks! horsechic1990 P.S. My friend who is a manager for the boy's swim and dive team at my school said that Mango seemed like a jerk to her and this other girl who is also a manager for the team is head over heals for him and wants to date him really bad. I don't even know if Mango is actually a Christian or not. I've gotten some feelings to call him and "preach" to him, but I don't know if they're feelings from God or not. I told my mom about them and she highly doubted they were and said they were probabaly just feelings for him 'cause I still somewhat liked him (my mom is Christian too, btw). Mango is in 12th grade and I'm in 11th grade, btw. P.S.S. Mango is not his real name btw......

Well, if I were in your situation... I wouldn't go out of my way to try and get a hold of this guy. If you see him in the halls or whatever, say hey- you know... be friendly and all. But if he's seemed to have lost interest, I wouldn't want to seem desperate by continuing to call him... cause that could just get annoying to him if that is that case. As for him not being a Christian possibly, again... if the opportunity arises- I'd say go for it. Talk to him about Christ. But otherwise, like the person above me said- prayer always helps. So yeah, I know it may be hard to just stop talking to this guy you may have feelings for and continuing to pursue him... but honestly- if he's the guy for you- he'll prove it, and God'll let you know on top of that. So just keep putting a lot of prayer into this, and you'll make it through okay w/ any regrets :] God Bless, Charlene

Thank you both sooooo much! You have helped me a lot and I really appreciate it! God Bless you!

I agree with Charlene... don't go out of your way to be with this guy.. or to call him. If you see him in school say hello, and you can try to start a conversation with him. Sometimes you have to let the guy be the pursuer. Keep praying about it. Maybe he'll come around and realize just how great you are...even as a friend. :)

[b]ChristianWoman wrote:[/b] [quote]I agree with Charlene... don't go out of your way to be with this guy.. or to call him. If you see him in school say hello, and you can try to start a conversation with him. Sometimes you have to let the guy be the pursuer. Keep praying about it. Maybe he'll come around and realize just how great you are...even as a friend. :)[/quote] Thank you so much for your help! You made me feel good about my situation, so thanks!