i am in luv with this guy in my youth group. he's REALLY cute, smart, loves nature, is an all-around nice guy, and is the perfect candidate for a boyfriend. well i just got back from the youth group beach trip thing. bradlee, the guy i like, was there. and he would not stop flirting with me. he kept trying to get alone with me too, but when we were alone he would just stare at me while i looked off in the distance. and he stared at me the whole trip. when we went to the pier to go fishing, i was looking over the rail at the water, and he was standing next to me. then he looked at me, and i looked at him, and then we both looked away, just like in the movies. the other kids were teasing us the whole trip--even before i started liking him. i think they knew he had a major crush on me, and they were just messing with us. and they kept trying to play matchmaker. they tried to make me and bradlee fall in luv and stuff. but it didnt really work cuz we were both too embarassed, nervous, and afraid to do anything. i really want to be with him, and i can tell he wants to be with me, but i dont know what to do. i wrote a poem about him: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Waiting I stand alone out here And gaze at the stars. They shed a bright light Upon my scars. I think back to the day When we first met. It was so crazy and weird I could never forget. As I stand here thinking, I feel you watching me. And then I thought, "Why can't he see? Why can't he see that I like him as well?" Then a thought came, Clear as a bell-- "Maybe he's afraid, or maybe he can't tell." If only the fool could see That I have feelings for him! But what do you expect from a boy? They are really, Truly, undoubtedly dim. Maybe someday He will be able to tell That me, the unlovable, unloving, "emo" girl Likes him as well. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I wrote that poem the other night before we went to roast marshmallows around the campfire (this was at the beach trip me n the other ppl in the youth group went on). Its about him, but he doesnt have the courage to ask me out. I would most likely say yes if he did, though... cuz I like him too. But he's too afraid to do anything, and so am I. I keep seeing signs that him n me should get together. I think it's God's will. He knows that I am depressed cuz I'm alone, and I think this is His way of answering my prayers. But I still don't know what to do. I don't know how to ask him out or anything. Help?? heart, sj

Post edited by: squirrelgirl, at: 2006/08/19 17:44

well, first make sure your parents are okay with you dating. then, go ahead and make a move! Instead of asking him on a single date though, get together with some other friends (like other kids from your youth group) go to the movies, or the bowling alley, ice skating. Something fun where you can hang out with other people so there's no chance of awkward pauses, however, you can still talk to him. A fun group date is also to go the book store (like borders or barnes and noble) and get a random book, and everyone sits in a circle and takes turns reading the book. It's really fun and random when its like, 6 or so people, and like, a little kids book (see spot run) and you read it all dramatically and everything. I get depressed when I'm lonely as well, and sometimes having a boyfriend doesnt solve everything. However, having a boyfriend will allow you to go on more group dates, which will allow you to hang out with groups of other kids. Maybe you'll meet some new friends that way. Hope I was a help.

welll i kinda need advice 2 i meat this guy on my buss i had no clue that he was a christen till he shoud up at alive i was so shocked so we started hangin out and i was going to his campsite and everthing he volentured so i was getting stuff signed 4 him and everything so then i found out he has a fince so then we started diching other friends and i started to like him i even met her there u know so i have no idea wat to do and i am going to see him on buss the 28 of this mounth and i have no idea wat to do i need help wat can u tell me couse i am afraid if i tell him that we might not even be able to be freinds so help me pleaze and 4 u i cant tell u just ask him out:) :blush:

[b]Cassiopeia wrote:[/b] [quote]well, first make sure your parents are okay with you dating. then, go ahead and make a move! Instead of asking him on a single date though, get together with some other friends (like other kids from your youth group) go to the movies, or the bowling alley, ice skating. Something fun where you can hang out with other people so there's no chance of awkward pauses, however, you can still talk to him. A fun group date is also to go the book store (like borders or barnes and noble) and get a random book, and everyone sits in a circle and takes turns reading the book. It's really fun and random when its like, 6 or so people, and like, a little kids book (see spot run) and you read it all dramatically and everything. I get depressed when I'm lonely as well, and sometimes having a boyfriend doesnt solve everything. However, having a boyfriend will allow you to go on more group dates, which will allow you to hang out with groups of other kids. Maybe you'll meet some new friends that way. Hope I was a help.[/quote] that was some good advice. there is no way i couldve thought of that. thanks sooo much!! next time i see him ill ask him out on a group date. the nearest inexpensive fun thing is the movies, which is across the street from my house. pirates of the carribean 2 is playing there. and we all love POTC!! awesome idea, thanks for caring bout me and my problems ^^ heart, sj

[b]squirrelgirl wrote:[/b] [quote][b]Cassiopeia wrote:[/b] [quote]well, first make sure your parents are okay with you dating. then, go ahead and make a move! Instead of asking him on a single date though, get together with some other friends (like other kids from your youth group) go to the movies, or the bowling alley, ice skating. Something fun where you can hang out with other people so there's no chance of awkward pauses, however, you can still talk to him. A fun group date is also to go the book store (like borders or barnes and noble) and get a random book, and everyone sits in a circle and takes turns reading the book. It's really fun and random when its like, 6 or so people, and like, a little kids book (see spot run) and you read it all dramatically and everything. I get depressed when I'm lonely as well, and sometimes having a boyfriend doesnt solve everything. However, having a boyfriend will allow you to go on more group dates, which will allow you to hang out with groups of other kids. Maybe you'll meet some new friends that way. Hope I was a help.[/quote] that was some good advice. there is no way i couldve thought of that. thanks sooo much!! next time i see him ill ask him out on a group date. the nearest inexpensive fun thing is the movies, which is across the street from my house. pirates of the carribean 2 is playing there. and we all love POTC!! awesome idea, thanks for caring bout me and my problems ^^ heart, sj[/quote] of course. anytime dear.