WHY??? Dating isnt really the smartest idea. It puts you in a position where u can fail. It makes you feel bad when someone doesnt like you, and it breaks ur heart when its over. WHY put yourself through it? DO you think that God will let you meet the man/woman you are going to be with the rest of ur life with now, that he will disapear before you are old enough to marrie him. Why cant you be just friends untill you can commit to spending the rest of ur life with him. Iv played the dating game, Im 17 iv had one girlfriend i felt i loved her. That relationship one in witch we were just friends for 9 years ended because i asked her to date me. why because i wanted what any guy wants i wanted to kiss i wanted to cuddle And i got all of it. But at what cost. about 7 months of having a gf. A 9 year friendship flushed for selfish resons. just think about that.

Post edited by: Staplesx6, at: 2007/01/17 00:33

I for one have only one good guy friend, but I only like him as a friend and he knows it too (I told him in a nice way and he was fine with it, even though he liked me as more than a friend at the time), so I can't fully relate on asking a friend out, but I do know some about the dating scene. For starters, I will say that I have never had a boyfriend before (I'm 16) and it's true! I will say that I think a lot of people put themselves through it because they feel lonely or maybe because they want to find their future spouse. A good friend of mine who's non-Christian (this friend is a girl) has had several boyfriends, but she dated most likely just to date. Most of the people who go through relationships aren't Christian and/or aren't aware that Christ wants us to wait for Him to bring us our future spouse. I for one will wait for Him to bring my future spouse to me, because I know it's the right thing to do and because I don't have enough guts to ask a guy out anyways (I get too nervous). I'm sorry to hear about your failed relationship though. Not all friendships end that way though, and maybe you could have found out if she liked you or not before you asked her out, but I can't say before 'cause I don't actually know you. Hope that helps! horsechic1990

[b]Staplesx6 wrote:[/b] [quote]WHY??? Dating isnt really the smartest idea. It puts you in a position where u can fail. It makes you feel bad when someone doesnt like you, and it breaks ur heart when its over. WHY put yourself through it? DO you think that God will let you meet the man/woman you are going to be with the rest of ur life with now, that he will disapear before you are old enough to marrie him. Why cant you be just friends untill you can commit to spending the rest of ur life with him. Iv played the dating game, Im 17 iv had one girlfriend i felt i loved her. That relationship one in witch we were just friends for 9 years ended because i asked her to date me. why because i wanted what any guy wants i wanted to kiss i wanted to cuddle i wanted the selfish things every guy wants. A 9 year friendship flushed for selfish resons. just think about that. Post edited by: Staplesx6, at: 2007/01/16 02:58 Post edited by: Staplesx6, at: 2007/01/16 02:59<br><br>Post edited by: Staplesx6, at: 2007/01/16 03:07[/quote] You know, I totally agree with you. Dating=bad idea. I have only ever been in one relationship, and it didn't end well. I don't regret it because God me so much through him, but I don't want that pain and frustration for anyone. I felt horrible when, after three months of dating, he tried to kiss me and I laughed at him. I have never been kissed and he was the first to seriously try. I wasn't ready and I certainly didn't want my first kiss to be in a movie theater. He didn't talk to me for 2 days, i don't even think he was mad, just embarassed. But anyways, I agree with you. Now is the time that we should be falling in love with God and getting as close to him as possible. Leave your love life to God and He will write a more beautiful love story than you could ever imagine.

Post edited by: MsKiraLynn, at: 2007/01/16 21:51

Yeah, I TOTALY AGREE! I had these two bfs, and it DIDN'T end up as I wanted it to, I was depressed for a LONG time, I'm still getting over it, but having a bf/gf is a REALLY BAD IDEA! Cuddling and all that stuff will come when you get married, but NOT a good idea until then, and it ends a bunch of friendships when you or the person dumps you... or your friend that you didn't ask out that liked you stopped talking to you, w/e :unsure: