What do y'all think dating or courting:kiss:

What exactly is the difference?

keyseya, you asked for the differences between dating and courting? well this is my sister's boyfriends blog post on that subject. "Grace" is my sister. ;-)this is off his blogspot Thomas Umstattd.com . ----- * Courtship has a purpose and happens to be a lot fun. As opposed to being fun and happening to have a purpose. * Courtship is about identifying martial compatibility. * Courtship about honesty and intentionality instead of playing manipulative games. * Courtship includes family and friends (in that order) instead of excluding community. * Courtship spurs couples towards Christ instead of distracting them from Him. * Courtship is about standing alongside each other serving Christ instead of facing each other thinking primarily about the couple. * Courtship is not about rules. It is about identifying the true motivations of the heart. * Courtship is about accountability. Not secrecy. * Courtship is about pleasing God in physical and emotional intimacy first and pleasing each other second. * Courtship is about treating each other like a son or daughter of the King. Not like an object to be used and used up. * Courtship is about thinking of the other as more important. * Courtship is about bringing families together, not about excluding the parents. * Courtship is fun. Anyone who says it isn’t hasn’t tried it. Happiness is a side effect of courtship. Not the goal. Specific differences from dating (for us): * Most of the time we have spent together so far has been with our families or with groups of friends. * We see our families as allies, not as enemies or obstacles. Grace’s siblings are becoming my friends and my siblings are becoming Grace’s friends. * We keep our parents in the loop and are accountable to them. I am learning that moms are a good source of advice when it comes to what women want. And more importantly what they don’t want. * We don’t touch each other much. As a single guy, watching unwed couples hang all over each other made me feel uncomfortable. I don’t want to perpetuate that. If this courtship ends in a green light then there will be plenty of time for touching. If it ends in a red light we will be glad we kept our hands to ourselves. This doesn’t mean we don’t touch at all. Grace and I went to the Spring Formal Dance for instance. But we don’t touch much. You may think we are a couple of fuddy duddies for our lack of physical contact and you are entitled to that opinion. But I will say that this has been one of the most exhilarating times of my life and I don’t need to have my hands all over Grace to have a good time with her. I think Grace says it best: “Courtship is allowing God to be the focus of a relationship instead of the couple being the focus, or the world of couples (culture).” So that's his (and my) opinion on the matter! :) hope it helps!

[b]debaterox11 wrote:[/b] [quote]keyseya, you asked for the differences between dating and courting? well this is my sister's boyfriends blog post on that subject. "Grace" is my sister. ;-)this is off his blogspot Thomas Umstattd.com . ----- * Courtship has a purpose and happens to be a lot fun. As opposed to being fun and happening to have a purpose. * Courtship is about identifying martial compatibility. * Courtship about honesty and intentionality instead of playing manipulative games. * Courtship includes family and friends (in that order) instead of excluding community. * Courtship spurs couples towards Christ instead of distracting them from Him. * Courtship is about standing alongside each other serving Christ instead of facing each other thinking primarily about the couple. * Courtship is not about rules. It is about identifying the true motivations of the heart. * Courtship is about accountability. Not secrecy. * Courtship is about pleasing God in physical and emotional intimacy first and pleasing each other second. * Courtship is about treating each other like a son or daughter of the King. Not like an object to be used and used up. * Courtship is about thinking of the other as more important. * Courtship is about bringing families together, not about excluding the parents. * Courtship is fun. Anyone who says it isn’t hasn’t tried it. Happiness is a side effect of courtship. Not the goal. Specific differences from dating (for us): * Most of the time we have spent together so far has been with our families or with groups of friends. * We see our families as allies, not as enemies or obstacles. Grace’s siblings are becoming my friends and my siblings are becoming Grace’s friends. * We keep our parents in the loop and are accountable to them. I am learning that moms are a good source of advice when it comes to what women want. And more importantly what they don’t want. * We don’t touch each other much. As a single guy, watching unwed couples hang all over each other made me feel uncomfortable. I don’t want to perpetuate that. If this courtship ends in a green light then there will be plenty of time for touching. If it ends in a red light we will be glad we kept our hands to ourselves. This doesn’t mean we don’t touch at all. Grace and I went to the Spring Formal Dance for instance. But we don’t touch much. You may think we are a couple of fuddy duddies for our lack of physical contact and you are entitled to that opinion. But I will say that this has been one of the most exhilarating times of my life and I don’t need to have my hands all over Grace to have a good time with her. I think Grace says it best: “Courtship is allowing God to be the focus of a relationship instead of the couple being the focus, or the world of couples (culture).” So that's his (and my) opinion on the matter! :) hope it helps![/quote] It has, thanks! I really like this bit: [b] “Courtship is allowing God to be the focus of a relationship instead of the couple being the focus, or the world of couples (culture).” [/b] I really like how he said about the whole touching thing, there is so much more to relationships than touching

I totally agree debaterox11!!

It would depend on how old u r. If ur young like 15 and under i would court but if u r 16 and up u could date or court.:)

i think i would go on a double date so sorta like courting

Courtship all the way. The family is more involved, and they can help with problems better because they know the guy better. Also, I want any/all of my relationships to be God focused.

i would have to say dating to me it is the same as courting in my opinon courting is the older versin of dating a guy of gal!

like my friend littlemermaid i would have to go with her answer!B)