I have been wanting to go out with a guy friend of mine for a really long time (about 3 years) and I was really hoping to spend time with him during our trip to camp because I haven't seen him in a little less than a year. I asked one of our commonly shared best friends if he was coming and she said yes. Then when I showed up at the info meeting he wasn't there and he didn't have a name tag on the table. So now I'm really disappointed and I'm trying to hide it, but I really want to see him before this feeling goes away...if it ever does.

Hey! I'm really sorry to hear about your situation! I'm not that great with relationship advice, but I am thinking that you should be straightforward and just ask tell this guy how you feel about him and ask him how he feels. A friend of mine told me (at least as far as she knows) that most guys like it when your straight forward about those kinds of things. If he doesn't feel the same about you, then the worst he can say is 'no.' Maybe he was going to go to the camp trip but had to pull out because of an unexpected family emergency or because of another reason and maybe he didn't have time to notify you or your friend about it. I don't see why you couldn't ask him about it, so next time you talk to him ask him about it and be straightforward with him about your feelings for him. I hope that helps! God Bless you!

as a guy, i can honestly say that you should be straightforward with how you feel.... the majority of guys like it that way..... to be honest, guys just dont get signals.... personally, i think the girl i like has been trying to send me signals for a couple months now, but I dont know for sure at all and its really frustrating.... just be straightforward.... tell him in person... or, if you're not that confident.... write him a note..... it'll make him feel special

trust me being straight forward is something i am amazing with... honesty is the best policy for me and he knows that bc we've talked about it. i think that i've just missed my window of opportunity though bc once school starts my schedule is so busy i don't even have time to stress about how stressed i am! so i have very little personal time for friends and dating unless they are in the same activities as me...which he is definatley not.

i think you probably would've fallen into the same situation even just during the summer though... because eventually school would've started and you still would've had very little time with him.... speaking from experience, with school stuff i mean more specifically, I played football and half of my classes were honors classes this last year when I had my only g/f and I found time to be able to spend time with her (despite the fact that she lived 2 hours away) I called her every night and talked for about an hour and I got to see her 3 times I believe total during the five months (that wasnt much though lol).... if the guy likes you and if you were both committed to it... there's a definite way to make it work even with school stuff and being busy all that to say that I still think you should talk to the guy and tell him all what's going on and such..... discuss it a bit.... and decide if you can work it out with your schedule and such.... weekends are always good to do things.... and short, one-hour-at-most maybe phone calls every night (depending on the homework and exact schedule) are good

Post edited by: DHfan, at: 2006/07/13 00:25