Well I have set standards for myself to not date right now. so that I can focus on God and growing close to Him. I want to be so focused on God when I meet Mr.Right that he has to ask God directions for my heart. Well now that you kinda understand where I am coming from here is my question....... Even though I don't date, what do I do when a guy asks me out? I know how to tell him no, but it just gets so hard having to say no all the time, somtimes I just get so sick of telling every guy "no" that I just want to say "yes" for the heck of it. Even if its to a guy who I know doesn't deserve my heart. I just need encouragement right now, for those ^ resons and a guy that I really did like secretly, asked me out and even though it hurt, I turned him down. Please is there anybody out there like me, with the same mindset? Ever been though this? What do I do about this guy? Well got to go please reply! Love always, Lyndsey [img]http://www.mypraize.com/components/com_joomlaboard/uploaded/images/me_again.jpg[/img]

NO WAY! that's what I've decided to do, too:cheer: Well, I honestly haven't ever been asked by a guy:blush: but i've already decided to gently tell them no and tell them WHY i have to say no...it'll get tiring I'm sure but I say pray about it...if u get sick of telling them no i guess u could explain why u don't want to date and them promise you'll pray about it b4 deciding? hope this helps!

I'm thinking along a different track here, so if you think like JCsavedME, Catgirl15, and lexi4him do about dating, then listen to their advice. I just wanted to say something here. Ok, I'm 17 and I think it's alright to date as long as you feel you're ready to and you are a senior in high school or so. If you say "oh I'm gonna wait until Mr. Right comes along" well how are you gonna know who the freaking heck that is unless you go out with someone first? You don't have to do casual dating, but if you honestly like the dude a lot, he's Christian, etc. then what is wrong in going out with him if you're my age or older? I know dating is for marraige and everything, but there is no way in heck I'm waiting until I'm out of college to go on a date. Cuz what if I meet that guy in college and say no? That would suck! Do what you want though, and if you wanna wait to date, I'm not gonna condemn you if you don't condemn me.

[b]Horseluvver wrote:[/b] [quote]Well I have set standards for myself to not date right now. so that I can focus on God and growing close to Him. I want to be so focused on God when I meet Mr.Right that he has to ask God directions for my heart. Well now that you kinda understand where I am coming from here is my question....... Even though I don't date, what do I do when a guy asks me out? I know how to tell him no, but it just gets so hard having to say no all the time, somtimes I just get so sick of telling every guy "no" that I just want to say "yes" for the heck of it. Even if its to a guy who I know doesn't deserve my heart. I just need encouragement right now, for those ^ resons and a guy that I really did like secretly, asked me out and even though it hurt, I turned him down. Please is there anybody out there like me, with the same mindset? Ever been though this? What do I do about this guy? Well got to go please reply! Love always, Lyndsey [img]http://www.mypraize.com/components/com_joomlaboard/uploaded/images/me_again.jpg[/img][/quote] Read my other post on this topic, but seriously if you really like a guy and he's nice and Christian and all that jazz, and you like him still in a few years, then ask him out (or if he asks you, then say yes!)! I saw on your profile that you're 14, which is kinda young to date, so keep saying no until you're 17 or 18 or so, then I would say it's ok to go out as long as you feel comfortable with it and you're not dating just to date (that's called casual dating).

[b]horsechic1990 wrote:[/b] [quote]I'm thinking along a different track here, so if you think like JCsavedME, Catgirl15, and lexi4him do about dating, then listen to their advice. I just wanted to say something here. Ok, I'm 17 and I think it's alright to date as long as you feel you're ready to and you are a senior in high school or so. If you say "oh I'm gonna wait until Mr. Right comes along" well how are you gonna know who the freaking heck that is unless you go out with someone first? You don't have to do casual dating, but if you honestly like the dude a lot, he's Christian, etc. then what is wrong in going out with him if you're my age or older? I know dating is for marraige and everything, but there is no way in heck I'm waiting until I'm out of college to go on a date. Cuz what if I meet that guy in college and say no? That would suck! Do what you want though, and if you wanna wait to date, I'm not gonna condemn you if you don't condemn me.[/quote] ...no one was condemning you or anyone else for starters. secondly, I didn't say dating was wrong, I just said I think there are better options. thirdly, I don't plan on getting married anywayz. that's why I told God if he wants me to, He's gonna have to take care of it.

I personally feel that age doesn't matter when it comes to maturity for dating. I mean, yes, I think that we should all wait until we're at least somewhat close to being ready to get married, but I think spiritual maturity comes first and foremost. I want to applaud you for seeking out God first and turning down the guys until you're spiritually mature enough to handle a relationship. That's awesome, and I wish a lot more girls would do that. I think when you're turning a guy down, that could be a great way to witness, as weird as that seems. Explain to them [i]why[/i] you won't date right now, and maybe they'll be curious. You never know how God will work his way into the lives of others. Here are my qualifications for knowing when (and if) I'm ready to date: I want to be so close to God that a guy has to pursue Him to find me. :)

i think that you are making the right decision and i admire you for that. when i was 16 i broke down when the guy that i liked ask me out and i regret it. he was a great guy and everthing he just wasn't the right guy for me. i haven't dated scence then and know how hard it is to say no. but the guy that is right for you will be willing to wait intil you are ready to date. so hang in there it will be worth waiting;)

Right on!!! A guy that would really, really, REALLY like you should know when to ask you out. And he should like you for who you are, and not the pretty face, and hot body.:angry: My old bf tried to go tooooo far with me:sick: Stay alert ladies! God has a better plan for you!:)