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xhopefull11x

18 year(s) ago

I was really great friends with this girl last year. We were so much alike and got along great! Then she started hanging out with other people. I have a really short temper and started ignoring her completely. Then we got over it and became friends again. but things never have been the same. we keep getting into mini-fights, and on the last day of school she said she didn't want to be friends anymore.We kept seeing each other over the summer and we were off-and on again friends. I hate it. I keep getting hurt by what she says and it's just too stressing. I enjoy hanging out with her and we always have something to say or laugh about, but I just can't handle the drama of it all. Help please?

savylla

18 year(s) ago

I sort of know what you're going through, I'm sure several can agree. Anyway, my suggestion is just tell her what's going on. Tell her what you feel and whatever's going on in your mind. If she thinks you're being stupid or whatever, then I think you don't need friends like that. Anyway, you might also want to pray. It's really tough, but if you quiet yourself, you'll hear God's voice, though it may be faint.

agene

18 year(s) ago

if its causing you that much pain and stress you need to atleast take some time to seperate yourself from her cause your relationship with Jesus is way more important than the one with her and if shes distracting you from Him and causing you pain and stress its not worth it.

HelloWorld

18 year(s) ago

You know what?? It's NOT worth the stress. I had a very similar relationship, but it was all the more painful because we had been friends for a long while. Then, she started doing things that I just couldn't agree w/and her mom was ok w/it, so I couldn't argue, and her friends started getting more and more... Rebellious, I guess, and it put a lot of strain on our relationship. Not to mention I was just learning to be a Christian, so that put even more stress on the relationship... We finally broke it off for a while, then started hanging out on-again, off again, talking, but I always ended up getting hurt (like you). So now, we chat every once in a while on MySpace, I've told her I'm available if she needs to talk, but other than that, if she wants to pursue the relationship, feel free. I'm gonna get on w/my life, I'm done with trying to fix things. I'm 18, and this has been going on since I was... what... 14? So it was a long, painful process for me, but it doesn't have to be for you. :)

xhopefull11x

18 year(s) ago

Thanks for the advice. I will try my best to do what God wants. :)

horses4ever23

18 year(s) ago

We had a friend who lived down the street who was just like that. But the way it seams is if thats how the friend acts then you are not really friends. In the end she stopped being our friend and she only hung out with us if she had no one else to and she wasn't a good friend. She was friends with all of us, but when my friend and I invited her to spend time with us she came over and told us she had told her mom she was going to hand with my sister so she left us to hang with her. She was not a good friend and she moved away and never even thought of writing us or saying goodbye. I believe she was only a friend because we took her eevrywhere(my dad's fault) and spent alot of money on taking her places and buying her things, but she never appreciated it. I hope this is not the entire case with your friend and thet you can work it out.

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