I need help! a lot of the people in my youth group (high schoolers) tend to date alot, one week they will be together and the next week they will be with someone else in our youth group i have already tried to explain to them, that we are the future generation of our church and i dont wont our church to fall apart, when we become the adults, because of stupid high school crushes. This problem actually ahppens to a lot of yout groups, how can i yet again explain to them that this needs to stop i am not saying that they shouldnt date people in our youth group, i just need to tell them to slow down!

this really isn't something that you can be like "hey... this is dangerous... slow down" and they'll listen... most of the time, they need to learn it on their own... in fact, most people in your youth group may never see each other again after high school i would advise you to just tell them to cherish friendship most of all and not focus on the dating aspect of a relationship... because if you focus on friendship before dating, you will not have that extreme dislike for that person unless something really, really drastic happens people in my youth group have dated a lot with each other, but all of them are still friends.... in fact, in the history of our youth group, only one friendship has ever been ruined because of that... and she was one of the biggest jerks ive ever met in my life lol at least when it came to dating... nice otherwise lol

haha! thanks alot, i just dont understand how feelings can just change that fast, and actually, your right, most of the people in our youth are still really great friends! as long as it stays that way , and as long as it doesnt become awkward to the point where you cant be in the sam eroom, i think it will be okay!

We as "teens" are forced to date. We can't marry (which women were mature enough and ready to marry by age 15 from biblical times all the way up to recent 1900s). So, we're stuck in this limbo about "you're not a child" but then there's the "you're not an adult until you're 18" thing. So what defines an adult? A lot of this results in "dating" (in which I personally agree with courtship because that keeps the man and woman's purity intact), which results in "teens" without God behind the law telling them they can't marry, but they can learn about intimacy in schools. Paul actually encourages young people with strong passions to marry. There doesn't even have to be a connection,just marry so the fire will be quenched. He also says that when a woman reached the time of her flowering (meaning puberty which happens in the teen years). There is no such thing as a "teen" in the bible, only elders, infants, children, young adults, and adults. So, premarital relations in the church and amongst the "young people" tosday is mainly because of doing away with God in the govrnment system and putting a limit on marriage age, whereas if we had just stuck with courting (chaperones and parental permission of two young people becoming an "item" and going out on "dates") and preparation for marriage young, then none of this premarital relations thing would have started (with the knowledge that there have always been sexually immoral people and there always will be and that this thread has nothing to do with premarital relations). Sorry about that. It's been bugging me for a while.