well im 16 and want to date. i've never been on a real date, just a couple group ones and i guess homecoming. but now that i can drive and really date, i really want to. she doesnt even have to be my girlfriend, i just want to pursue the girls im interested in and get to know them better on a deeper level. maybe im just naive or retarded, but it is really really really really bugging me..and constantly, i dont know how to get rid of it so i thought i should share it with others, other christians in particular, and have them give me advice or pray for me. and p.s. there is a sadie-hawkins deal at my school and i am going to explode due to not being able to ask the girl. p.p.s. my school is really really small and there are only a few girls i like, so it makes it even harder.

Can't you pursue the girl(s) you are interested in by just being their friend? Don't worry you are not alone...I am 18 and have never had a boyfriend or even been on a date. It gets annoying...but don't rush into a relationship that could end up badly. One way to get rid of the desire to date a girl would be to give that area of your life up to God.

i could see how that would help...but maybe God put this desire into my heart for a good reason

dont date just to date... it's not a good idea

I agree with all the advice given so far. For years I wanted a girlfriend cause everyone "cool" had one. Of course I was always the fat kid so none of the girls I liked liked me back. After a while I basically just gave up. I did finally get fed up with being fat too, and while I'm not skinny now, I lost 50 lbs. so I'm [i]skinnier[/i]. This wasn't just to get a girl though, I just feel so much better being able to run a mile without nearly passing out halfway through ;) I had always had crushes on girls and just tried to be friends with them cause that was all that ever happened. Then, I met a girl that I instantly knew was different. Now after a little over a year we started dating a few months ago and it's going great. So I would definitely recommend NOT dating just to date. I mean here I am at 18 with my first real girlfriend (and who knows, maybe my last too if things keep going the way they are). The last few years I was always frustrated that I could never get a girlfriend, but now looking back, I'm really glad I waited (even if it wasn't by choice). I believe it was all in His plan for me not to date, but once I gave it all up to Him everything worked out for the first time EVER.

okay, mayby not real commitment dating, but i sure would like to go with the girls i like at certain functions at my school and stuff, that would be helpful and safe. right?

i wouldnt even worry so much about that... then you would fall into the pattern that is so common in high schools today... people go through so many meaningless relationships in HS that they dont appreciate the right one as much when that person comes along... dont get caught up in the drama.. it's really not worth it