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ttima

18 year(s) ago

Ok I would like to ask you guys some advice on this situation. There is this guy that I met and I was just have general converstation with him and I stupidly gave my number to him, even though I had a hint of a feeling that I should not have done it. Now He's like calling me and talking to me and I can tell that he is not just trying to be my friend. He seems to have a lot of issues and He was telling me like all this stuff about his past like all these girls that he has been with etc. He said that he is not completly like that anymore etc. #1 where I am at in my relationship with God I don't feel like I need a boyfriend, and #2 He is not a good influence and I feel that God does not want me to really be talking to him. He was telling me, the guy, like how he accepted Jesus when he is was 16, (He is 17 now) and how like he knows that he needs to get his like together, but how he has like this struggle with girls. (yeah, I know, red flag!) At first I was Oh, I can like help see how he needs to completly give his life to God, but I think deep down I knew I needed to just leave it alone. My problem, I guess is how should I end this, and has anyone been here what is your advice. Mature anwsers please.

MochaMoose

18 year(s) ago

Have you tried asking him to stop calling you? If not do that.... And if her still won't stop block his calls

ttima

18 year(s) ago

okay, thanks for the advice Mocha, anyways I now feel kind of dumb for posting this forum especially with title Help!! since people have said that this should be left for really serious topics and I do agree. I was not trying to ask about what to say to a guy I like or something I was asking for serious advice in this situation, not how to look cute to a boy. I do feel, like some people said that we should have more serious topics, but also I feel that, even if something may seem dumb to one person, like I have a crush on this boy, or whatever, especially from younger girls, then they should be steered the right way, not jumped all over for their question, and things like that. Anything that concerns us concerns God, no matter how small, but I do feel like we should be a bit more serious with questions I guess. But if something really is bothering you and it does involve a relationship or whatever I feel like if you want to do the right thing and want advice for the situation you should feel comfortable to ask it, because that is something that will be faced in our lives. God bless

livin4Him17

18 year(s) ago

Don't feel dumb about posting this topic, I think it is good topic in here. You made a mistake and now you need advice to correct this mistake. First, I applaud you for realizing that where you are in you relationship with God is an important part of determining when you are ready for a boyfriend. I was in a similar situation last summer, I went on a missions trip to Memphis, TN with my youth group and we picked a cousin of one of the younger guys on the way. After a day, he decided he LOVED me! We were put in the same group for the week, so I was constantly working with him. He did not tell me he "loved" me until the day before we were supposed to leave. This being my first time someone has actually told me to my face that he liked me, I didn't know what to do. I was 18 and he was 15, kinda illegal. So I talked to my two best friends who were also on the trip, and they helped me tell him. He was 15 and mature for his age in most ways, but he was also immature in other ways, like girls. He's been on other missions trip with the youth group before, and have "loved" just about every girl in the youth group he met. I would ask him to not call anymore and maybe mention that it was a mistake that you gave him the number in the first place. If you have caller ID on your phones, you could just not pick it up. I would also talk to your parents about it. They may have other ideas of what to do. I'm just getting tired of younger teen girls asking for the same advice about how to look cute for a guy, and hiding it under the titles like HELP!...I think there should be one topic for things like that cause most if not all of the advice is the same. I won't post on topics that are the same over and over.

ttima

18 year(s) ago

Thanks, and I see what you are saying:)

Bittersweet

18 year(s) ago

sounds like when i got infatuated with a guy, gave him my number, and i received calls every day of the week for two weeks. up until i snapped at him to leave me alone (not the best way to say leave me alone, mind you. don't make that mistake) and i suddenly became the meanest girl in school. so i recommend telling him NICELY, mind you, (don't get into the same mistake i got into, cuz i couldn't control my temper) to leave you alone, and then pray things will get better for him.

stratacastle

18 year(s) ago

I'd say be kind to him, but talk to your youth pastor or someone else you know who deals with troubled youth and new Christians a lot. Then give this guy their number (with the adult's permission of course) and tell him that they could help him better than you can. Like the other girls said, stop taking his calls as often, etc. You don't want to get too close to him, but you don't want to push him away too hard, either, for the sake of his new walk with God.

aav-jewel

18 year(s) ago

BLOCK HIM. He sounds like it may be more trouble than its worth for you. Focus on your relationship with God before you try to help, and that's if you even want to.

Tori-Rebecca

18 year(s) ago

[b]ttima wrote:[/b] [quote]Ok I would like to ask you guys some advice on this situation. There is this guy that I met and I was just have general converstation with him and I stupidly gave my number to him, even though I had a hint of a feeling that I should not have done it. Now He's like calling me and talking to me and I can tell that he is not just trying to be my friend. He seems to have a lot of issues and He was telling me like all this stuff about his past like all these girls that he has been with etc. He said that he is not completly like that anymore etc. #1 where I am at in my relationship with God I don't feel like I need a boyfriend, and #2 He is not a good influence and I feel that God does not want me to really be talking to him. He was telling me, the guy, like how he accepted Jesus when he is was 16, (He is 17 now) and how like he knows that he needs to get his like together, but how he has like this struggle with girls. (yeah, I know, red flag!) At first I was Oh, I can like help see how he needs to completly give his life to God, but I think deep down I knew I needed to just leave it alone. My problem, I guess is how should I end this, and has anyone been here what is your advice. Mature anwsers please.[/quote] Change ur #

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