Ok, I have kinda a problem here and I was wondering if you all could help me. First of all, I have been trying to get a date for Homecoming for a while now, and I wanted to go with my friend's guy friend, and he told my friend that he wasn't allowed to go! The reason he wasn't allowed to go with me to Homecoming was because he is 15 and he is not allowed to date until he is 16 (which is obviously after Homecoming!)!!! I was upset, but I am hoping that he is 16 in time for Prom! Anyways, back on track here! I kinda like this other guy who is my age (I'm 16) and I was considering asking him to Homecoming instead of the other guy who is 15. However, I chickened out and couldn't ask him.:unsure: My friend (the one who is friends with the 15 year old guy) said that the best way to ask him (the guy who is my age) is to ask him when he's not surrounded by a bunch of people and say something like "hey, I have a question for you." and then ask him to the dance. I am scared to ask though 'cause I always chicken out when I want to ask guys out. Also, I would want to take the 15 year old guy to a dance once he's 16, and what if I take the other guy to Homecoming, end up dating him and I can't go out with the first guy? That would most likely happen, and the first guy is cute!!!!! I am content with going with friends to Homecoming, but I can't help feeling that I should ask the guy my age to the dance! However, I kinda want to be available when the other guy turns 16. Help!!! What should I do?

talk to the 15 yo's parents, that's what happened with my sister. A guy from our church talked to our dad and said it was a group thing and they are just going to go as friends. (I think he wants it to be more than that). Hope this is helpful.

Well, i say if you really like him ask him. I was looking on the guys only forum (I know, it's bad) and they said that they think girls should ask the guys out too. They get really scared when asking a girl out and some times chicken out. Maybe he has wanted to ask you but can't get up the courage to do so. Good luck and I hope you have a great time at homecoming!

inHisimage, I doubt that every guy would agree with that. Some that I know actually prefer that women be less agressive. It takes a real man to pursue a woman, but that is what he is supposed to do. Anyway, that's a different topic. horsechick, why do you like these guys? What makes you prefer the 15-year-old over the guy your age? Do you know one better or think one is cuter, etc? How well do you know either of them? I know this won't sound very fun to you, but going to a dance with a group of friends can be way more fun than going with some guy that you may or may not know very well. Also, asking a guy to go with you as a friend can be fun, too. Just because you go to a formal event with a guy doesn't mean you two are or have to be a couple. Take your time, and make friends. Enjoy your life. You have plenty of time in the future to think about dating.

Well, I said that I kinda liked the 16 year old guy because he is pretty nice (from what I can tell anyways) and he is cute. The 15 year old I know is nice, 'cause one of my friends is friends with him and he is CUTE! I think what makes me prefer the 15 year old guy is that I know for sure that he is really nice and he is friends with one of my friends, so it would be a lot easier for me to get to know him then it would for me to get to know the other guy. Don't worry, I am not about to go out with a guy just because he is cute; I want to go out with a guy who has a great personality. However, I don't know either guys very well, but I think it would be easier to get to know the 15 year old better. So, as of now it sounds like half of you are saying that I should just go with friends and the other half of you are telling me that I should ask the guy my age to the dance. I was considering asking the guy my age to go as friends, but I was thinking I might fall for him as more than friends, and what if that happened and I started going out with him and then the 15 year old guy was single when he turns 16 and I couldn't go out with him 'cause I was dating the other guy? I am confused here and I agree with all of you on what you said. My mom said I should ask the 16 year old guy if I want to, but to ask him as friends if I have the courage to ask him. However, I lack the courage to even ask as friends, so should I just forget it and go with a group of friends? I went to Tolo (it's like Sadie Hawkins but more dressed up) with a group of friends last year and we had a blast, so I know that I would have fun with friends. After reading all your responses, i am thinking that I should just go with friends to this homecoming and try to get to know the guys better, so I can decide better who to go out with later on (if I even end up going out with one of the guys I was talking about). What do you think I should do? Did I make the right decision (nothing is set in stone yet)?

I definitely think that would be a good decision. Since you're having so much trouble deciding between the guys and since you're afraid to get attached to one when you want to be with the other later, I say just go with some friends. Don't worry about the guys for now, and when you have the opportunity, get to know them as friends, too. That will help you a lot later. No sense in rushing anything. ;) I hope that helps!

Thanks strata! You helped me a lot and I thank you so much! I will just go with my friends then and get to know the guys better like you suggested I should do. Also, one of my other friends said that she had a crush on the 16 year old guy and she is actually gonna ask him to Homecoming, so I am just gonna let her ask him and go with my friends. Thank you all for your advice!!!

[color=#0000FF][/color] I think you should go ahead and ask the young man to the homecoming dance. What's the worst that can happen? He can say no, or he's not allowed to go on a date. Then, suggest he just join you and your friends for the evening. If you don't do it, you'll always wonder what would've happened right?! But...do not ask him anything around his friends; very important. If he's with friends and he may want to say yes, he may say no because they're watching him, got it! Good luck!