Ok so I know how much yall like these threads about guys... But I have a little problem... One of my guy friends likes me likes me, and we have been friends for a very long time... and when we first became friends he told me he liked me more then a friend and I told him I just wanted us to be friends. Well he told me yesterday that he still likes me like that.. and I dont want to hurt his feelings because like most of you, I know what it feels like when the person you like/love doesnt have the same feelings for you.. It sucks really bad. But I dont want to go out with him because I feel sorry for him. So if yall could give me some advice that would be great. =) and if your gonna reply and say "you shouldnt be worrying about this!" and yada yada ya, Then dont waste your time. Because I aint gonna read it. But all other advice is much appreciated! =) Ashley

Well, I can't really help you as such, but I can tell you that I fully understand. When I was twelve, I met a boy at the park next door. He was a nice kid, he was polite when the other kids weren't, and he was pretty cute too. Eventually he asked me out. I didn't think it was a good idea, but I was flattered that he'd noticed me and I felt sorry for him too because all the other kids were teasing him about it. So I said yes. It basically came to nothing, I didn't see him again for a week, and by that time my concience had caught up with me. See, my parents had said we weren't allowed to date, and I'd known that and said yes anyway. Well, I had a pamphlet delivery job around the neighborhood then, so the next time I went out I found this boy and asked him to go with me. While we were out I told him that I was sorry, that I did like him but that I wanted to only be a friend. He was disappointed, but said yes. That was ok, we were friends for a few years but there was always a strain over us. He still had a huge crush on me. For nearly four years he was constantly insisting that he loved me and asking if we could go out. It got to the stage that I cut off contact with him because I couldn't put up with the guilt anymore. At one stage he even tried to kill himself over it. Basically, he had low self-esteem and I was the only one who saw the good person he could be underneath. Anyway, when I moved to Australia last year he finally realised that it just wasn't going to happen, so he toughened up, got a job and started studying at tertiary level. He has a real girl friend now and is building his own life. We talk now sometimes, and the other week he thanked me for staying strong and never giving in to him all through those years. He told me that he saw now that it would have been bad for both of us, and he said that my standing up for what I believed was good for him to see too. Anyway, my point was don't give up. Stand strong for what you believe in, even when it's hard. God sees what you do, and even when no-one else is noticing, He knows.

thanks =)