Ok, I'm beginning to join several other ladies on this site that are tired of all these girls thinking that they're in love. This is what I have to say, and you all must believe it! [b]IT IS NOT LOVE, IT IS HORMONES[/b] We are going through puberty, ladies!!! Our hormone count is high as we make the transistion from childhood to adulthood!! These hormones give us curves, that cursed time of the month, and throw into sharp contrast the opposite sex. So we naturally notice them more and pay more attention to them. That fluttery feeling in your chest whenever you see that "special someone"? That's hormones. Your hormones, when you see a guy, are the strong reason why you think, "I LOVE YOU! YOU ARE SO HOTT!!" Or whatever else you think when you see him. Yes, it's painful right now, when so many of us have pledged not to date and not to go so far when our hormones are screaming at us to get closer to men, and find a connection. I know, coming from a 13-year-old, you're all probably really skeptic about what I'm saying, but trust me, it's gonna get harder and harder, but please, stay strong in G-d and pray that He'll give you the strength to overcome these natural feelings. And so you all know when it is the REAL special someone: Love is not an emotion, it's a choice. Paul writes about love in 1 Corinthians, so if you need advice on love, go read 1 Corinthians, chapter 13. Love is when you decide to stay with someone for the rest of your life. You decide they are the one you want to be with, the one you'll marry, ect. I can't explain much on love as I have not found it yet, but I describe it as a choice you make. So please make smart choices!! G-d Bless.

I have been wondering why all the sudden i feel that way about the guys i hang out with and see, thx for explaining that, now i understand. That answered a lot of my questions about what me and my buds have been going through. wow.

Well I know how all that goes....and yeah you are really smart for 13 (I'm 14). Though I can say I have been in love before and I wound up getting my heart broken and I still to this day can't get that certain someone out of my head or heart but it's not love anymore it's more like I dred ever meeting him for what he did. All I can say is that I know what love is...It's putting that person before everthing in your life (except god of course), praying more for someone than anyone else, not being able to carry on if anything happened to them, wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, and caring what ANY of your friends think about him beause honestly you just want to be with him and nobody else. Thats love and pardon my french but when you lose it...is hurts like hell....and all I can tell you as far as advice goes is stay as far away from guys as you can for the time being, until your like 17 at LEAST. Well thats my two cent take it or leave it, but yeah there you go.

Go Bittersweet! Your advice is so wholesome and worthy for every girl to keep close to their heart. So what if your only 13? I'm 14 and I never thought of it that way. Keep it up! I hope God is proud to have people like you in his army!:laugh:

Go Bittersweet! Your advice is so wholesome and worthy for every girl to keep close to their heart. So what if your only 13? I'm 14 and I never thought of it that way. Keep it up! I hope God is proud to have people like you in his army!:laugh:

It's about time you got on the forums! Good gosh, I've been waiting!!!!

i agree with a lot of what was said and disagree with a lot as well. basically the thing is. obviously you do not need to get wrapped up in that and need to fight it. the consequence are so great in number and variety. you can be wounded and pulled away from the most important Lover you'll ever have mostly. dont make a soul tie and give your heart away who someone who does not deserve it give it to the one who IS in love with you. He wants you to long after Him to think about Him all the time to desire to be with Him. if you tie yourself to someone who is not worthy it wont be pretty. hold strong and pray hard it WILL be tough. but one day it will be so worth it. oh and if your wondering what i didnt agree with it was what someone thought of real love. i totally agree with the 1 cor 13.. but some other things i read... not so much. its much more complicated and deep than what was written. but you guys have your hearts in the right place! hold tight to your true love, but do not think you are stronger than you are stay smart. pride will come before your fall. love-

[b]agene wrote:[/b] [quote]i agree with a lot of what was said and disagree with a lot as well. basically the thing is. obviously you do not need to get wrapped up in that and need to fight it. the consequence are so great in number and variety. you can be wounded and pulled away from the most important Lover you'll ever have mostly. dont make a soul tie and give your heart away who someone who does not deserve it give it to the one who IS in love with you. He wants you to long after Him to think about Him all the time to desire to be with Him. if you tie yourself to someone who is not worthy it wont be pretty. hold strong and pray hard it WILL be tough. but one day it will be so worth it. oh and if your wondering what i didnt agree with it was what someone thought of real love. i totally agree with the 1 cor 13.. but some other things i read... not so much. its much more complicated and deep than what was written. but you guys have your hearts in the right place! hold tight to your true love, but do not think you are stronger than you are stay smart. pride will come before your fall. love-[/quote]Well If your talking about what I wrote your right it is deeper than that I was just in a MAJOR rush and like I typed all I could think of at that very second....

Bittersweet, don't let that 15 year old girl give you crap! She thinks she knows a lot about guys but she could only be dating for a few years and probly knows absolutley nothing about what shes talking about! Keep it up and don't let anything keep you from it!;)

[b]Lorna wrote:[/b] [quote]Bittersweet, don't let that 15 year old girl give you crap! She thinks she knows a lot about guys but she could only be dating for a few years and probly knows absolutley nothing about what shes talking about! Keep it up and don't let anything keep you from it!;)[/quote] Lorna, let her say what she wants to say!