so im dating a guy that isn't a christian , but i think he's what we would call "searching." im not really missionary dating or anything because i really like the guy, but i'd also like to see him get saved. anyway because he's not a christian he doesn't have limits. we've made out alot and when we make out he gets very into it. hes asked me to do more, but i told him i wasn't going all the way until i am married. he said he respects my standards and hasn't asked me to have sex anymore, but he has asked me to go farther then just making out. so i was just wondering, would it be okay to go farther,is making out already to far for a christian, as a christian, what are my boundries?

Farther than making out is too far, in my opinion. It's too tempting. Also, personally I don't think it's the best decision to be dating someone who isn't a follower of God, while you are.

[b]Anko wrote:[/b] [quote]Farther than making out is too far, in my opinion. It's too tempting. Also, personally I don't think it's the best decision to be dating someone who isn't a follower of God, while you are.[/quote] Ditto.

I think that it's nice that he respects your limits-- but then again, you have to set your own limits. As for me, making out is a pretty far path to take, like Anko said; it's very, VERY tempting.

I had the same thoughts as Courtney... First off, don't date a guy who isn't a christian unless God has specifically told you too; end off story. If he is 'searching' then get him going to church and make sure you know where he is spiritually (which should be about the same level as you and have the same theological beliefs as you) before even thinking about dating. Feelings come and go but faith and true love (love that is based on God) is what holds you together in the tough times. Also, it's hard to date and evangelise at the same time, they just pick apart your beliefs and point how your downfalls and hypocritical moments. Honestly, I don't even think making out is ok. Making out leads to touching and so on and so forth. Kissing, yeah but nothing more than that apart from holding hands and arm around waist kinda thing. You need to stand firm in not going further than making out (if that is your limit) and stick to it. If he keeps on pressuring you then honestly, tell him it's over. It's not worth all the guilt and stuff for that short while of pleasure. If you want to PM me, my inbox is always open. I know what it's like to go out with a non-christian and get pressured into doing stuff. :)

Its way to far! stop where you are, and tell him to stop! he's probably datin u for Kiss reasons! tell him just to gve u a little space

I agree, anything past making out is too far. And, you should try to lead him to Christ. But don't shove it down his throat.