I know these topics get annoying, but I think I've fallen for one of my best-friends... who's a guy. I've known him forever, but it's weird you know how a guy and a girl are best friends and they fall in love in the end and stuff? Well, it's not that I want that to happen; it would just be kind-of strange if it did! Y'know what I mean? We're in the same grade, we go to church together, we're both home-schooled and go to the same co-op, we're both bible nerds, etc.; the only things that we don't have in common are: he has black hair, he's a year older, and he lives in a different part of Tennessee. He makes me laugh, and he's on vacation. I just don't know what to do; I have to pretend that we're just friends... but I don't wanna be.

[b]beicountrified wrote:[/b] [quote]I have to pretend that we're just friends... but I don't wanna be.[/quote] You're what 11? (or 13, I can never remember) You are way too young at 11 to want something more than just a friendship. If you ask me it's just a crush and it should be ignored. Raging hormones are easily mistaken for love. ;)

[b]Going_Under wrote:[/b] [quote][b]beicountrified wrote:[/b] [quote]I have to pretend that we're just friends... but I don't wanna be.[/quote] You're what 11? (or 13, I can never remember) You are way too young at 11 to want something more than just a friendship. If you ask me it's just a crush and it should be ignored. Raging hormones are easily mistaken for love. ;)[/quote] ^this

Okay, pretend that I'm 15 for a minute: I am so confused about this, I can't say to him how I really feel because he thinks I like another guy. I like two guys at the same time, except the one I originally liked is a jerk. What should I do? I tell him EVERYTHING, now I have one big secret that I can't tell him. :unsure:

[b]beicountrified wrote:[/b] [quote]Okay, pretend that I'm 15 for a minute: I am so confused about this, I can't say to him how I really feel because he thinks I like another guy. I like two guys at the same time, except the one I originally liked is a jerk. What should I do? I tell him EVERYTHING, now I have one big secret that I can't tell him. :unsure:[/quote] But you're not 15, and I can't pretend that you are because that would be giving you the wrong advice. Trust me, if you tell him any of this, it's going to make your friendship completely weird. At your age, liking someone usually makes for an awkward situation after you tell them how you feel. If you're sitting there trying to have a casual conversation with them, all they're going to be thinking is: "Does she still like me? What if she doesn't like me?", etc. Just leave it alone and stay friends. Trust me, it'll probably pass within the next few weeks or so.

[b]beicountrified wrote:[/b] [quote]Okay, pretend that I'm 15 for a minute: I am so confused about this, I can't say to him how I really feel because he thinks I like another guy. [/quote] Then would he not be correct? And how would talking to him about it change that fact? it would be a mask. [quote]I like two guys at the same time,[/quote] Exactly. you just like them. When you can have the exact same feeling for two people at once you know it's merely a crush, a hormone induced high. And these hormones fade along time, some sooner than others. How can you know at a hormone-infested time what is really love and what's just a crush? It'll end in pain and akwardness between good friends to act on these random urges. Best way to really see them though is with what you just stated. Holding feelings for multiple people to the point of confusion and frustration. [quote] except the one I originally liked is a jerk. What should I do? I tell him EVERYTHING, now I have one big secret that I can't tell him. :unsure:[/quote] A jerk you say? Well then don't get involved with him at all. Despite women's opinions, we can not change a guy who does not change himself. ;) He's a teenage boy who is also going through his hormones which is going to turn him from puppy to "small dog syndrome" really fast. It's not worth it even trying to play the "maybe he'll change" card, because he won't for many years. ;) I'd say keep the secret to yourself, as it is a growing up problem for now. If you have a journal, write it out. A lot. Make stories, situations, play with your mind, but not with his, ya know? Help at all?

Okay, this happened to me, but it was opposite. My best guy friend "liked" me, and the whole situation was quite funny, actually... "So, Kayla....." "So, (insert name here)...." "Okay, I just have to tell you.... I've liked you for like, forever..." "Ohhhkayy?" "*sigh*" "Seriously, (insert name here), what was the point of this?" "I like you. A lot." "And....? Seriously. It doesn't change anything. You've had like I don't even know how many girlfriends, and I'm not getting into that." "Okay. That's fine. I just wanted to remind you that no matter what, I'm here for you. Always." Sometimes it doesn't turn out awkward. In my case, our friendship got stronger because I think we finally realized that we can really tell eachother anything. I'm not saying that you should tell him, because more than likely it will end awkwardly, but I just wanted to let you know that sometimes it doesn't. Pray about it and let God lead you to do what you need to do. Sometimes keeping it in can be more awkward than telling it. Also, if you like two guys at once, that's just a bad situation. Your hormones are going insane, and they're making you go insane. ;) Ahh... you gotta love those hormones, don't ya?:P