I kinda have this problem. I have a guy friend of mine who I'm not sure if he's a Christian or not. And the thing is, I'm starting to have a crush on him...Yikes! Is this unbiblical? I mean, I know it's a very good idea to date only Christians. But since we're not dating yet, is this okay?

man im in that same predictament

yea id say its unbiblical it would be unequally yoked but personally i think its ok to have a crush as long as it doesnt go anywhere

Dating someone who is not a Christian is not a great idea... Many christians who get together thinking they can change the other persons belifs by being together fall apart , and or end up in situations they never thought they would find themself in. The other thing is you may both be Christians but one of you maybe more mature in your faith... This also has the potential to get messy.. You are still "unequally yoked" one will drag the other down one way or the other... You need to be preety much srong on a par with your partner... Strengthening each other. I've been pretty much in both these situations, and it has yet to work... 1st case = I wasn't exactly trying to change his beliefs, but was hoping I could led by example n he didn't mind coming to church n all that jazz... but still fights happened because he was wanting things I didn't... And eventually my line got blurred I didn't want to fight so I'd ease up a little on one thing then on the next till I had messed up my whole way of where I stood... 2nd case = Since becoming a Christian I've had a few low spots when yeah I'm here but I'm not real strong in my relationship with God, in one of these times I was with a guy who I'd been friends with for a few years. He also was a Christian,. We didn't do anything to bad by worldly standards (but as Christians we don't live by the worlds standards we live by God's standards) But I still did wrong by this guy because I wasn't on the same leavl as him in faith and I dragged him down... And I'm sorry I did that to him. Currently I'm working on my relationship with God so I can be ready for my husband (when I met him) There is one or two guy friends I have now that I would love to have God say here is your Man, but I'm not ready for the relationship I would want with that person, and there is a few guy friends I have now that it works in reverse As to crushes... I think you got to be careful with crushes.. they jus another form of lust...

Yeah, I understand what you're saying. I know several people who married non-Christians, and now they're very upset because their spouse doesn't know Christ. Luckily, for the moment, my crush and I are just friends. Do you girls think it'd be a good idea for me to witness to him, and then if he becomes a Christian, date him?

[b]lanienicole wrote:[/b] [quote]man im in that same predictament[/quote] ME 2

[b]so_cdog wrote:[/b] [quote]pouse doesn't know Christ. Luckily, for the moment, my crush and I are just friends. Do you girls think it'd be a good idea for me to witness to him, and then if he becomes a Christian, date him?[/quote] Yes! Witness to him! I think the[i]best[/i] thing you can do right now is focus on being his friend. You are a Christian, and THE most important thing for you to do is share Christ with him. I definitely don't think you should date him while he's unsaved. However, if you are the one who leads him to Christ and you begin dating him after that and end up breaking up... that could cause huge problems in his relationship with God. Also, if the two of you become emotionally involved before he becomes saved, he could go through the motions of it to make you happy. I don't think that's what you would want, and it's definitely not the right way to go about things. Pray about it, witness to him with your words and your actions, and pray for another Christian to impact him, too, so that it's not all on your shoulders while you are emotionally involved.

[b]lanienicole wrote:[/b] [quote]man im in that same predictament[/quote] ya, me 2

Thanks everyone!:)

I think that crushes are ok. But if the person you have a crush on is a non-christian... dont do it. Believe me. I am a christian and i learned my lesson the hard way. I dated a boy who wasn't a bad kid but he wasnt necessarily a christian and it ended up in major heartbreak. I finally listened to God that it wasnt wise of me and me and the guy ended up severly hurt. My advice... for your sake and the boys... avoid unequally yoked relationships. ;)