okay so God "called" me to not date my 9th grade year. ifelt like he was saying 'jamie if u will jus wait on me, i can give u something better than anything u could ever get for urself'. and now looking back on it i can see that 9th grade is to young to be dating for obvious reasons..... and i dont plan on dating anytime soon and no 1 could change my mind b/c the only kind of relationship i want is one that is God ordained.... i kno i have plenty of time to find 'mr right'.... but wat exactly am i waiting for? i mean i get the whole no broken hearts thing...... but even those who do date, get married to the rite person. i cant help but think that there is a bigger picture to all of this..... but wat is it? okay so u probably cant tell me that exactly..... i guess wat i am lookingfor is some encouragement that there is hope, (i do not plan on becoming a nun or anything like that) from pple who weretold to wait and waited and still found the rite guy..... is there anyone out there that has gone thru this same thing or is going thru it? and ne of u guys peekin in dont be afraid to leave a note.....

I personally don't have any experience with this because I am still waiting for my first boyfriend and I am 18. But, my older sister waited until half way through her senior year in high school to date and her first boyfriend was her only boyfriend and they are now happily married. The right guy will come...its really good that you are waiting and not rushing into things.

Hey you are doing great!!!! NO rushing kudos for you! The right guy will come along and when he does he'll sweep you off your feet and you will be really happy you were patient! I didn't have my first bf until i was 16 and i made mistake after mistake. I pray you never have to go through the heartbreak i went through. I didn't have sex, but i didn't wait for God to choose who i dated either. I dated a non christian. :( Now i am close to 18 and have a great christian guy who has made me the happiest girl on the earth. :lol: He'll come in GOD's time, but don't lose hope! God's time is different than ours. :) Good luck and God BLESS!! B)

well i am 18 now and i have never really had a boyfriend.... ive 'talked' to guys but nothing serious....havent really liked that many guys either..... i kno that that is all god keeping me from temptations......:)

Same with me...I have NEVER had a boyfriend or even been on a date. I talk to guys and am friends with guys but nothing romantic. I haven't really liked many guys either. It does get kind of annoying when your friends get boyfriends and you don't have one though.

im 18 as well and have been having a tough time with the fact that i have never had a boyfriend. my friends tell me thats having one wont make you happy and im sure as well God as some special guy instore but still it actually hurts that God hasnt given me one yet.... dont knw how ur doing on this but i too could use some encourgement.

Hey Jamie, I was curious why you wouldn't date but ya beat me to it :). Anyway I'm 17 and haven't even been on date either but one of my friends was "called" by God not to date as well. She didn't for awhile but then she went out with this one guy and he treated her terrible and ended up being a really bad guy. So not getting hurt was probably one of God's reasons there and maybe for you too but it sounds like you're already aware of that. Last year I knew if I had gotten in a relationship it might not have been bad but looking back I know I would've ended up neglecting my relationship with God and I'm really glad I didn't get into that because it's much stronger now. I feel like if I were in a relationship now I would be better at being able to balance everything. But only God knows that and I'm still waiting because for all I know I'm not there yet. God isn't always about feeling because feelings are always changing and He never does so sometimes He asks you to do something just because He wants you to trust Him even when your mind can't rationalize. It usually helps when I keep that in mind, even though it's still hard.

thnx alot britt..... that really helps.... wat u said reminded me of something that my pop has told me for years about when he started the church he is about to retire from.... anyways he said that God told him to build a church as big as his faith and He would fill it, and to not worry b/c we walk in time but God walks in eternity.... my papa may not live to see the church grow as big as his faith is, but thats not wats important b/c like u said god doesnt go on feelings and emotions but there is a bigger picture to all of this...maybe this not dating thing will give us a really powerful witnessing tool to the next generation and one for generations to come..... so yall be lookin out in the next 5+ yrs for a book by me on not dating.... thnx alot every1 plz dont let this topic die...it will be good to go back to this when i need a lil encouragement! and to make sure this forum keeps up....if u have the time: new topic: wat is the hottest thing [u]in[/u] a guy to u? (notice i did not use the word "on" in that question!)

Hottest thing in a guy to me would have to be him being a strong christian guy who will treat me like a lady (with respect)...I gues you call it a chivalrous christian guy :)

thnx alot britt..... that really helps.... wat u said reminded me of something that my pop has told me for years about when he started the church he is about to retire from.... anyways he said that God told him to build a church as big as his faith and He would fill it, and to not worry b/c we walk in time but God walks in eternity.... my papa may not live to see the church grow as big as his faith is, but thats not wats important b/c like u said god doesnt go on feelings and emotions but there is a bigger picture to all of this...maybe this not dating thing will give us a really powerful witnessing tool to the next generation and one for generations to come..... so yall be lookin out in the next 5+ yrs for a book by me on not dating.... thnx alot every1 plz dont let this topic die...it will be good to go back to this when i need a lil encouragement! and to make sure this forum keeps up....if u have the time: new topic: wat is the hottest thing [u]in[/u] a guy to u? (notice i did not use the word "on" in that question!)