Ok, my mom and I don't really spend that much time together anymore. We used to be super close. She got a job and now we kind of have our sepersate lives. Any time I'm with her we fight! I hate it! When I'm with her I just want to hang out and not argue but like everything she does now really annuys me. I don't know why. I guess it's just part of the wonderful teenage years. Comments please!

I know it can be [i]so[/i] hard to do this, especially at your age, but try to see from your mom's perspective. Also, what are the kinds of things that you fight about? When I was your age my mom and I were constantly fighting about my clothes and hair. Looking back, I can see that a lot of her choices weren't at all as horrible as I had believed them to be. It was just that I wanted to do my own thing and have that be okay. It can be hard to appreciate your parents as much in your teenage years. I know it took me a while to realize how fun my parents are. They weren't the ones who changed, though. It was my perspective of them. Maybe both of you can reach an agreement to try to be more understanding of each other.

wow me and my mom are the exact same, i gues it is all part of the teenage years, i thought i was just a bad daughter, i feel better now that i know it is normal. lol

i used to be like that with my mom, but some things have happened in my life that have made me realize how much i need my mom and how lucky i am that i'm now close with her during the more crucial time of my teenage years.:)

Yeah. I love my mom soo much!!! I need her too. It's like I know those thing but still we argue constantly. I almost feel mad at her for no reason sometimes. I hate it! I guess I need to work on showing respect even when I don't want to.

YA WHEN WE LET SPACE AND TIME BETWEEN US WE GROW APART BUT U REALLY NEED TO HAVE MOM AND ME TIME LOL IT IS REALLY A COOL THING . GET CREATIVE WITH IT HAVE A TEA TIME BIBLE STUDY OR A GIRLS NIGHT OUT R COOK SUPPER WITH UR MOM HELP CLEAN UP AND WATCH MOVIES WHILE GIVING EACH OTHER A FACIAL OR DO EACH OTHERS NAILS HAVE FUN WITH UR MOM

Don't say "It's just part of the teenage years." It doesn't have to be. Do all you can to build your relationship with your mom and avoid fighting. Then it will be up to her to meet you in the middle. You can't control your mom (and I know you resent when she tries to control you) but you can control yourself. That's the hardest and most crucial thing to begin with.

another suggestion would be to just help out around the house more or sumthing. I was having a really rough patch with my mom earlier this year, and it turns out she was just really stressed out with work and other family issues, and by helping out a little, it made her feel better and more relaxed, and then helped us to have a healthier relationship... not totally sure what your situation is.. but hopefully that helped a little bit