My friend just told me something really extreme, and i really just have to get it off my chest. She has been a Christian for like 6 months, but she really isn't living right yet. She is trying, but honestly, for her, living right is hard. She used to cut, drink, and do drugs. That was all stuff i knew, and I felt ok with because it is all stuff that I have seen/been around and all that. Not that I do it, but she is stopping with all of it (she is done with everything and working on the cutting). But yesterday, she told me something that (for me) changes everything. She has had sex. Recently, and alot in the past. The last time was in January, and she thought she was pregnant. Luckily, she wasn't, but the guy's Dad found out. She knows her parents will kill her if they find out what she has done. I feel like a horrible friend. I am supposed to be helping her be a strong Christian, but she didn't feel like she could tell me until 5 months later? I feel like I am failing her in some way. I know there is nothing I could do. I cant belt her and sleep in her room every night, but I dunno. I just feel like I should have done something, even though I had no idea she wasn't a vigin. She had led me to believe she was. Plus, it changes our relationship, I guess. I have never had sex before and I am waiting until I get married. I don't know how I can talk to her about that kind of thing anymore. I mean, we used to, and it was innocent and joking, but now I know how much it must hurt her to think about. So, please, just pray. Her name is Allie. Pray for her, and please, Pray for me, Emily. I really don't know what to do. She is making me not tell our youth pastor's wife, but i really feel like she should know..... Thanks! Emmily

Emily, I don't believe you were or are a horrible friend. Maybe she didn't feel she could tell you because she wasn't sure what you would think of her, and that's normal. It's a big secret, and sometimes it's hard to tell someone. But she did tell you, and that's what's important. Even though she's "making" you not tell your youth pastor's wife, try and talk about how it would be a good idea to. Maybe she went through the same things as your friend when she was younger. All I can say is to just keep praying for her and being there for her. I'll be praying. ~~Anko~~

i really dont know what to sya,but i will pray for you and the girl:)