Hey y'all, I'm someone a lot of people know but I wanted to ask this question anonymously, so I created a new name. What do you think of online dating? I was asked by a guy to be his girlfriend, I really do like him, he is 3 years older than me, and lives halfway across the country though. I said yes, and I'm glad I said yes... but was it the right decision? should I have said no? I mean, I know that I can't just trust that everything he says is true... but I don't think he is lying about who he is. I've talked to him on the phone a few times... I really do like him, and he is a Christian. But did I make the right choice? Please tell me what y'all think, and maybe why you think it...:unsure: :unsure:

well, as a general rule, i think online dating is absolutely ridiculous. but sometimes there can be exceptions. 1. how old are you? are you of the age where marriage is an option, if not now, then soon? because if no, it's completely pointless. 2. make sure your parents know. make sure you get their input on the situation, and be receptive to what they have to say. 3. pray, pray, pray, pray, and pray. there is nothing more important in a situation like this. you need to know that this is a potentially dangerous situation. things have started out like this and ended very badly, but i'm sure you know that. so make sure you get God's oppinion on it, and obey that above all else. but also know that it's not completely hopeless. i had a friend who was in her late 30s, she had never had a boyfriend. she went to one of those christian singles online dating things and found a guy. long story short, they fell in love, got married, had a kid...that was like 5 years ago, and they're still doing great. so as long as the right motives are there, and you are using alot of wisdom, it could turn out fine.

I'm turning 18 in a month... I do know about the possibility that he isn't who he says he is... But I have talked to him on the phone and I really thing he is who he says he is. And my parents don't know... My mom wouldn't care, but my dad would probably not be happy with me at all, so I'm going to wait till I'm 18 before I tell him.

I think it's somewhat rediculous, but if you know 100% that the person is who they say they are, then I see no problem with it. I've never dated anyone on-line before, but I've made friends online, and I know they are who they say they are, even though one of them lives in Portugal (it's by Spain in Europe). The one thing that would hold me back from doing it is that I don't know how my parents would react, but then again they didn't care that I was e-mailing someone I didn't know in Portugal (I met my friends on the forums for Switchfoot on their website), so they probabaly wouldn't care, but who knows. For now, just don't tell your dad 'cause once your 18, he can't tell you who to date and who not to date, although I don't like dishonesty. Hope that helps! horsechic1990

Online dating is dangerous as a rule. One can present themselves in any light. He may be legitimate but how can you really date someone across the country? You obviously have doubts or you wouldn't be asking. Friendships online are one thing, dating is another. I have a friend who is a immature christian and recently met a "christian man" online and began to date him. He turned out to be a man who once had been a pastor but was removed from his pastorship due to his sexual immorality. He also took her out to dinner and pushed alchohol on her all night and later took advantage of her when she was drunk. In-your-face dating and meeting your parents along with accountability in the relationship is the only way to go. Use wisdom.

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