ok my best friend just broke up with her boyfriend and ever since then she has been talking to my boyfriend a lot, and it is really starting to bug me. She shares secrets with him that i dont even know and after she tells him the secrets she tells him not to tell me and i am her best friend:( and he tells her secrets but they arnt big ones juss lil ones but i still dont know bout it........what should i do plz help!!!

Don't worry about it too much. The thing about having a boyfriend, is that you need to be able to trust him even when you aren't included in a conversation. Your friend believes that she needs someone like her ex to be able to trust and talk to. And if she sees that you trust him, why shouldn't she? She doesn't have a guy's perspective (that she may feel dependent on so soon after a breakup, especially a hard one) in her life right now, so she's chosen someone proven trustworthy through someone else. Does that make any sense? If you get too worried, you can always talk to him about it and see what he says, but this is really quite common in relationships. It's OK to be cautious and question sometimes, but if you find yourself unable to trust them, are they really that trustworthy to be that close in your life? I hope some of this, if any, made some sense and helped.

o yes thank u so so much:)

[b]THeMadHatter wrote:[/b] [quote]Don't worry about it too much. The thing about having a boyfriend, is that you need to be able to trust him even when you aren't included in a conversation. Your friend believes that she needs someone like her ex to be able to trust and talk to. And if she sees that you trust him, why shouldn't she? She doesn't have a guy's perspective (that she may feel dependent on so soon after a breakup, especially a hard one) in her life right now, so she's chosen someone proven trustworthy through someone else. Does that make any sense? If you get too worried, you can always talk to him about it and see what he says, but this is really quite common in relationships. It's OK to be cautious and question sometimes, but if you find yourself unable to trust them, are they really that trustworthy to be that close in your life? I hope some of this, if any, made some sense and helped.[/quote] I agree with MadHatter. And of course, if you feel uncomfortable, surely you can always let your best friend know. After all, she IS your best friend. ;)

choose your battles and learn not to let little things make you jealous or mad. if that doesn't help, play hard to get. Maybe she honestly has like personal issues, and only wants to tell them to the one she loves. Like, i've had a situation like this. There was this girl named, WEll, im not gonna say names *cough* Katie! and she used to be like my BFF, but then she only told her "other" bff's stuff and not me.. long story short. i just had to realize that if i really think shes not tellin me wat she should be tellin me, then i can just get over it and find new friends. Like, my BEST FRIENDs dont even tell me stuff sometimes.... and i dont either. Maybe she would regret it if she told it to you. i hope this advice helped. With Love, Bentlie (and alex)