true. and I dont want others to take what I said to the point that they will go to hell because they did not obey the Lords plan because he can bless and use everything to his Glory.

The purity conversation can be a tough one, especially when you're looking for specific standards and wanting it to be a flat line, black and white deal for every couple-- but it can't be that way. When my husband and I started dating, we didn't kiss. We hardly touched each other. That was bad. We both knew we were going to marry each other, and about 5 months into our relationship, God released us from our own standards of physical interaction. We kissed, but we talked about it. We made commitments to God. We knew how far we'd go-- which was never very far at all. We never made out. We never did anything that would put us in a precarious position. We never did anything we'd regret doing later. If we hadn't done this, I truly believe that once we were married, physical interaction and especially sex would have been really uncomfortable for me, and I probably would have felt violated and super insecure. However, my brother and his wife made the commitment to God and each other that they'd save their first kiss for their wedding day. Because of past sexual sin and bondage, they wanted to make a declaration that they'd wait, and it would be GOOD. And it was! It was beautiful! But, it was very different from my husband and myself. More than anything, it's REALLY important that you know your convictions, stick to your guns, and go to God together with your significant other in regards to what will be allowed in your relationship, and what will not. I think that legalism creeps in when we start drawing lines that God never drew out of fear or piety, and claiming that they are from Him. Likewise, sin comes when we stop asking God, "What's next?" and we start doing our own thing.