Hey all... I just wanted to ask for some help and any advice you may have. Recently I've been having issues ignoring other people. Well, not really the people, just their opinions of me. Earlier, my boyfriend decided that I needed a boost in self esteem, so he got on facebook and upped majority of my positions in the "Compare people". There are a few about relationships and looks on there, and those are the ones that i've been getting the horrid comments on. theres one ("rather kiss", and i know it souldn't bother me but it does, ok?) and the comment left for it was "He___ no!" and another catagory with the comment (in all caps) "what are you serious!!!! my a__ is hotter than her!!!!!" Now, if this isn't enough to kill one's self esteem, there are also rumors being spread about me. I didn't do anything to ever provoke them (in fact I've been gone for a year from this school, i get back and they're already spread), and they aren't true. Someone's decided that they didn't like me and my boyfriend, so they're calling me a wh__e. As for my exbf, there's a story going around about how he abused me. I get approached often with girls trying to "sympathize with me for being hit, because they know someone who went through the same thing". As for the other rumor, I sit at a lunch table, get strange looks from other girls and guys, then when I get up to leave, the entire table of 10-15 people is staring at me. The "Christians" are the one's doing a lot of the talking and glaring too... they constantly try to "reach out" to me and invite me to all their church things. I'm really tired of dealing with this every day, but it's gotten to the point that apathy doesn't work anymore. What can I do? I've lost a few of my friends to this and it's getting out of control. God doesn't seem to be helping with this one, so now what? Appologies for super-long post. :(

[b]THeMadHatter wrote:[/b] [quote]Hey all... I just wanted to ask for some help and any advice you may have. Recently I've been having issues ignoring other people. Well, not really the people, just their opinions of me. Earlier, my boyfriend decided that I needed a boost in self esteem, so he got on facebook and upped majority of my positions in the "Compare people". There are a few about relationships and looks on there, and those are the ones that i've been getting the horrid comments on. theres one ("rather kiss", and i know it souldn't bother me but it does, ok?) and the comment left for it was "He___ no!" and another catagory with the comment (in all caps) "what are you serious!!!! my a__ is hotter than her!!!!!" Now, if this isn't enough to kill one's self esteem, there are also rumors being spread about me. I didn't do anything to ever provoke them (in fact I've been gone for a year from this school, i get back and they're already spread), and they aren't true. Someone's decided that they didn't like me and my boyfriend, so they're calling me a wh__e. As for my exbf, there's a story going around about how he abused me. I get approached often with girls trying to "sympathize with me for being hit, because they know someone who went through the same thing". As for the other rumor, I sit at a lunch table, get strange looks from other girls and guys, then when I get up to leave, the entire table of 10-15 people is staring at me. The "Christians" are the one's doing a lot of the talking and glaring too... they constantly try to "reach out" to me and invite me to all their church things. I'm really tired of dealing with this every day, but it's gotten to the point that apathy doesn't work anymore. What can I do? I've lost a few of my friends to this and it's getting out of control. God doesn't seem to be helping with this one, so now what? Appologies for super-long post. :([/quote] I don't know exactly what advice to give you, but I will be praying. Also, what caught my eye was when you said, "God doesn't seem to be helping with this one, so now what?" It's not like God will just help you with some problems and not other problems. He's ALWAYS there for you, you just have to be patient with Him. Your problems won't always go away very quickly. Don't think, "God is not helping me right now, so I'll just go to someone else". God is your NUMBER ONE source of help and guidance. Don't get me wrong, nothing's bad about asking other people for help, too, but God will never leave you on your own and not help you. He's there every step of the way, it just takes patience and prayer. Post edited by: Anko, at: 2008/03/25 12:39

Post edited by: Anko, at: 2008/03/25 12:42