[color=#0000FF][size=4][/b][/color]lor=#0000FF][b]Okay, well my friend ashley is dating her boyfriend austin. Well now she says she likes Jose so I personally think she is like cheating on austin even though she isn't dating anyone else. She has told me she likes 3 or 4 other guys then Austin but she dosen't want to break up with him because he told her that they would be going out for a while.[/color] I personally think she is cheating on him in away.[/color] [color=#FF0000]Im best friends with Jose and he has told me that he asked her out but she turned him down.... See but now she has feelings for him.... I don't want austin to get hurt because If he finds out he will automatically dump her. I try and not even have a convo. with her or are really close friends with her because she is telling Jose that she wants to see him at the dances and maybe he should take her to one....blahblahblah! I don't want Jose to get hurt and I have told him what she has said and he even thinks it's wrong! I have been friends with him for like 5 1/2 years now! Well now she keeps going off on me and saying that I am the one who likes Jose and Yes I really do like him where I would be so mad if she hurt him I care alot about him. Well orry for it being so long but I need some advice to tel her to get over herself she already has a boyfriend I tried thoughs words she didn't like them at all. And I also want to help Jose What Should I do??>>> Any answers m confused!![/color] [color=#800080]Shelbster0328 Summer is almost here08[/b][/color][/size] :angry: :( :blink: :dry: :S :pinch:

Post edited by: Shelbster0328, at: 2008/05/21 19:34

I could barely understand that. So...your friend is dating someone, but she likes someone else, and..........I think that's where I'm lost. I would try to give you advice, but I don't understand what you're saying...

Post edited by: Anko, at: 2008/05/21 20:10

[b]Shelbster0328 wrote:[/b] [quote][color=#0000FF][size=4][/b][/color]lor=#0000FF][b]Okay, well my friend ashley is dating her boyfriend austin. Well now she says she likes Jose so I personally think she is like cheating on austin even though she isn't dating anyone else. She has told me she likes 3 or 4 other guys then Austin but she dosen't want to break up with him because he told her that they would be going out for a while.[/color] I personally think she is cheating on him in away.[/color] [color=#FF0000]Im best friends with Jose and he has told me that he asked her out but she turned him down.... See but now she has feelings for him.... I don't want austin to get hurt because If he finds out he will automatically dump her. I try and not even have a convo. with her or are really close friends with her because she is telling Jose that she wants to see him at the dances and maybe he should take her to one....blahblahblah! I don't want Jose to get hurt and I have told him what she has said and he even thinks it's wrong! I have been friends with him for like 5 1/2 years now! Well now she keeps going off on me and saying that I am the one who likes Jose and Yes I really do like him where I would be so mad if she hurt him I care alot about him. Well orry for it being so long but I need some advice to tel her to get over herself she already has a boyfriend I tried thoughs words she didn't like them at all. And I also want to help Jose What Should I do??>>> Any answers m confused!![/color] [color=#800080]Shelbster0328 Summer is almost here08[/b][/color][/size] :angry: :( :blink: :dry: :S :pinch:<br><br>Post edited by: Shelbster0328, at: 2008/05/21 19:34[/quote] She's not cheating on him at all. To cheat is to go running around with someone else other than the one you're committed to (without the significant other's knowlege or consent). It's common for kids your age to like multiple people. The fact that she's sticking with her guy and turning others down (despite her voiced feelings) shows that she's dedicated and faithful to him. Many married couples even admit to having temporary feelings for others, but they work it out when the marriage is strong. Maybe she's trying to work it out with her bf. It's okay for her to explore her options at this age too-- after all, there's no ring on her finger. Jose is going to do the same, and he'll go through heartbreak, just like you and your friend will. Secondly: She's not so "into herself" that it was necessary to tell her to "get over herself". That was quite a bit out of line on your part... I would have reacted just as she did- mad at the person who accused her of such things. I know you're trying to protect your friend, but you can't keep him from liking girls. He has to live and learn that part just like your friend. Maybe what she needs is to see that these actions have concequences. And perhaps Jose needs to learn something from this himself (although he seems to be doing just fine in it.) Whatever goes on with your friends, it really isn't any of your buisness to get involved in their love relationships. Most people don't like others barging in telling them what to do there. That's the quickest way to lose friends and/or their trust in you with these subjects. :dry: It's like your parents choosing your bf/gf for you. *shudder* i hate it when they do that to me... Anyhoo, pray for all 3-6 idk i lost count... They'll need guidence from Daddy on this, pray for their hearts and minds to be kept pure in the midst of this hormone-hurricane and for God's will to be done in their lives and relationships. That's all the advice I can give you, it's up to you and your friends to make the right decision.

Ok u got it rite if ur still confused jst akk.... sorry vry complicated!

[b]THeMadHatter wrote:[/b] [quote][b]Shelbster0328 wrote:[/b] [quote][color=#0000FF][size=4][/b][/color]lor=#0000FF][b]Okay, well my friend ashley is dating her boyfriend austin. Well now she says she likes Jose so I personally think she is like cheating on austin even though she isn't dating anyone else. She has told me she likes 3 or 4 other guys then Austin but she dosen't want to break up with him because he told her that they would be going out for a while.[/color] I personally think she is cheating on him in away.[/color] [color=#FF0000]Im best friends with Jose and he has told me that he asked her out but she turned him down.... See but now she has feelings for him.... I don't want austin to get hurt because If he finds out he will automatically dump her. I try and not even have a convo. with her or are really close friends with her because she is telling Jose that she wants to see him at the dances and maybe he should take her to one....blahblahblah! I don't want Jose to get hurt and I have told him what she has said and he even thinks it's wrong! I have been friends with him for like 5 1/2 years now! Well now she keeps going off on me and saying that I am the one who likes Jose and Yes I really do like him where I would be so mad if she hurt him I care alot about him. Well orry for it being so long but I need some advice to tel her to get over herself she already has a boyfriend I tried thoughs words she didn't like them at all. And I also want to help Jose What Should I do??>>> Any answers m confused!![/color] [color=#800080]Shelbster0328 Summer is almost here08[/b][/color][/size] :angry: :( :blink: :dry: :S :pinch:<br><br>Post edited by: Shelbster0328, at: 2008/05/21 19:34[/quote] She's not cheating on him at all. To cheat is to go running around with someone else other than the one you're committed to (without the significant other's knowlege or consent). It's common for kids your age to like multiple people. The fact that she's sticking with her guy and turning others down (despite her voiced feelings) shows that she's dedicated and faithful to him. Many married couples even admit to having temporary feelings for others, but they work it out when the marriage is strong. Maybe she's trying to work it out with her bf. It's okay for her to explore her options at this age too-- after all, there's no ring on her finger. Jose is going to do the same, and he'll go through heartbreak, just like you and your friend will. Secondly: She's not so "into herself" that it was necessary to tell her to "get over herself". That was quite a bit out of line on your part... I would have reacted just as she did- mad at the person who accused her of such things. I know you're trying to protect your friend, but you can't keep him from liking girls. He has to live and learn that part just like your friend. Maybe what she needs is to see that these actions have concequences. And perhaps Jose needs to learn something from this himself (although he seems to be doing just fine in it.) Whatever goes on with your friends, it really isn't any of your buisness to get involved in their love relationships. Most people don't like others barging in telling them what to do there. That's the quickest way to lose friends and/or their trust in you with these subjects. :dry: It's like your parents choosing your bf/gf for you. *shudder* i hate it when they do that to me... Anyhoo, pray for all 3-6 idk i lost count... They'll need guidence from Daddy on this, pray for their hearts and minds to be kept pure in the midst of this hormone-hurricane and for God's will to be done in their lives and relationships. That's all the advice I can give you, it's up to you and your friends to make the right decision.[/quote] K thanks well I think your rite and idk why i said that she jst kept caring on about how she likes him so much and asking me if he liked her and if he would go out wit her if austin broke up with her she jst started gettin anoyin so i jst snapped!!