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The boy that I love!!!

tashac

18 year(s) ago

There is this boy that goes to my church that I really like. We used to text all the time and he used to like me too. But then at camp he stopped talking to me and now he won't talk to me and he admitted that he liked me nd he knew that I liked him!!! Then he always stares at me and smiles at me and messes with me in some way. And his friends are always telling me that he still likes me but he says he doesn't when my friends ask him. And I can't get him out of my mind!! Idk what to do. I wanna tell him how I feel but I am scared. What do I do?

Bittersweet

18 year(s) ago

[b]tashac wrote:[/b] [quote]There is this boy that goes to my church that I really like. We used to text all the time and he used to like me too. But then at camp he stopped talking to me and now he won't talk to me and he admitted that he liked me nd he knew that I liked him!!! Then he always stares at me and smiles at me and messes with me in some way. And his friends are always telling me that he still likes me but he says he doesn't when my friends ask him. And I can't get him out of my mind!! Idk what to do. I wanna tell him how I feel but I am scared. What do I do?[/quote] The answer to every bit of this problem: IT'S NOT LOVE, IT'S HORMONES, SO SORRY, GET OVER IT. That was cold, but it's the truth.

joe-jonas-lover

18 year(s) ago

Tell him how you feel, he will come out of his shell. I know what you mean, I have been in love with one boy sence I was 3!!

tashac

18 year(s) ago

I dont know wht to do...tomorrow at church I have to work the cafe with him...we have a starbucks in our church and he is working it with me!!!!! Should I tell him?

Smalltowngirl13

18 year(s) ago

[b]tashac wrote:[/b] [quote]There is this boy that goes to my church that I really like. We used to text all the time and he used to like me too. But then at camp he stopped talking to me and now he won't talk to me and he admitted that he liked me nd he knew that I liked him!!! Then he always stares at me and smiles at me and messes with me in some way. And his friends are always telling me that he still likes me but he says he doesn't when my friends ask him. And I can't get him out of my mind!! Idk what to do. I wanna tell him how I feel but I am scared. What do I do?[/quote] "What is love? Is it seeing a girl and thinking, "Man, she's hot!"? Or, is love having a boy/girlfriend? Is it neither of those and something much deeper? What IS love? First of all, no, you do NOT love your boy/girlfriend. Especially if you are some 12 year old boy/girl that saw his/her "crush" and calls it "love". You may LIKE that person, but you don't LOVE them. Unless the rare occasion that you end up marrying that person. But most of the time, you think you love that person and then the two of you end up breaking up. Love? Don't think so! Love is not seeing a "hot" guy or a "sexy" girl. Love is not kissing, hugging, sex, holding hands, or any of that stuff. Those are PRODUCTS of love, but not LOVE itself. There are different types of love. Five of these types were identified by Greek philosophers. The first type is Xenia. Xenia (îåíßá ), hospitality, was an extremely important practice in ancient Greece. It was an almost ritualized friendship formed between a host and their guest, who could previously be strangers. The host fed and provided quarters for the guest, who was only expected to repay with gratitude. The importance of this can be seen throughout Greek mythology, in particular Homer's Iliad and Odyssey. The second type is Storge (óôïñãÞ ). Storge is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. The third type is Philia (öéëίá ), a dispassionate virtuous love. Philia was a concept developed by Aristotle. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity. Philia is motivated by practical reasons; one or both of the parties benefit from the relationship. Can also mean "love of the mind". The fourth type, Eros (ἔñùò ), is passionate love with sensual desire and longing. The Greek word erota means in love. Plato refined his own definition. Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself. Eros helps the soul recall knowledge of beauty, and contributes to an understanding of spiritual truth. Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to seek truth by eros. Some translations list it as "love of the body". Eros can be both good and bad. The fifth and final type of the Greek's ideas of love is Agape (ἀãάðç ), which means love in modern day Greek. The term s'agapo means I love you in Greek. The word agapo is the verb I love. It generally refers to a "pure", ideal type of love rather than the physical attraction suggested by eros. However, there are some examples of agape used to mean the same as eros. It has also been translated as "love of the soul". Guys, if you TRULY love a girl, you will listen when she speaks, even if you don't want to. You'll look into her eyes instead of staring at her chest. You'll smile at her and treat her politely. If she goes to sit down, pull out her chair for her. If she wants to go inside or outside, hold the door open for her. If she's cold, give her your coat. If she is about to walk into mud or dirt, put your coat or something else over it so she can walk through without getting dirty. You'll tell her how much you love her everyday. And you'll MEAN IT. You'll love her for who she is, not what she looks like. You'll treat her with respect. If she needs help, you'll try as best as you can to help her. You'll give her a shoulder to cry on and comfort her when she is sad, and you'll rejoice with her when she is happy. Girls, if you truly love a guy, you'll wear decent, modest clothing. If you truly love a guy, you will listen when he speaks even if you don't want to. You'll look into his eyes. You'll love him for who he is, not what he looks like. You'll be kind, caring, and polite to him. You'll treat him with respect. If he needs help, you'll try as best as you can to help him. You'll give him a warm embrace and comfort him when he is sad, and rejoice with him when he is happy." This is a quote by Witness.

Bittersweet

18 year(s) ago

[b]tashac wrote:[/b] [quote]I dont know wht to do...tomorrow at church I have to work the cafe with him...we have a starbucks in our church and he is working it with me!!!!! Should I tell him?[/quote] Starbucks? POR QUE, G-D! POR QUE?!

mjbearchick

18 year(s) ago

[color=#FF0000][/color]I would tell him how u feel but dont get another grl to tell him gys hate that if he still doesnt feel the same way about u move on.:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: ;) ;) ;) :evil: :evil: :P :P

Post edited by: mjbearchick, at: 2007/11/22 13:11

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