How do you really know that you are falling a guy? How do you know that it could be love?

I am going to sound a little cheezy, but I think when you fall in love with a person, your heart beats a little different around them, a little faster. You find it hard when there not around. There always on your mind. There the last person you think of before you go to bed and the first person you think of in the morning. You would do just about anything for them. Some of his interests become yours, just like some of your interests become his...okay I am stopping there. I tend to ramble.

[b]simplysweet82 wrote:[/b] [quote]I am going to sound a little cheezy, but I think when you fall in love with a person, your heart beats a little different around them, a little faster. You find it hard when there not around. There always on your mind. There the last person you think of before you go to bed and the first person you think of in the morning. You would do just about anything for them. Some of his interests become yours, just like some of your interests become his...okay I am stopping there. I tend to ramble.[/quote] thank yu because that is exactly how i feel about him. but how do you know if he feels the same? like tonight at church, iwas going upstairs and i lost my balance, but before i could even steady myself, he put his arm out to catch me, and i was home alone for a while, so when he got home he called to make sure that i was okay.he is super sweet and is my best friend, i completly trust him.

[b]sonworshipper wrote:[/b] [quote][b]simplysweet82 wrote:[/b] [quote]I am going to sound a little cheezy, but I think when you fall in love with a person, your heart beats a little different around them, a little faster. You find it hard when there not around. There always on your mind. There the last person you think of before you go to bed and the first person you think of in the morning. You would do just about anything for them. Some of his interests become yours, just like some of your interests become his...okay I am stopping there. I tend to ramble.[/quote] thank yu because that is exactly how i feel about him. but how do you know if he feels the same? like tonight at church, iwas going upstairs and i lost my balance, but before i could even steady myself, he put his arm out to catch me, and i was home alone for a while, so when he got home he called to make sure that i was okay.he is super sweet and is my best friend, i completly trust him.[/quote] Awww how sweet! :) Yes it does sound like you have a great guy. I don't know how old you are but judging from the room most girls in here are about 13 to 16. Its a little harder for younger guys to express there feelings. Girls have an easier time with that. But it does sound like he does care about you. It will develop. Take it slow. Maybe talk to him, then again that is up to you. Maybe others can chime in on that one! Good Luck!

[b]khakigirl wrote:[/b] [quote]With me, I never knew I was "falling" in love because it all just hit me one day. I realized that I deeply cared for my (then) boyfriend (now fiance). I cared about his feelings and I put his feelings above mine. True love is selfless. You will do anything for that person. You would die for them if need be. After awhile, the newness of love falls away and you have to work at it. You have to work at always putting their needs ahead of yours. You have to work on your conversation skills to avoid stupid arguments. You start to see the other person's flaws, but you don't want to change them. My fiance and I are doing premarital counseling and we got a sheet in our paperwork called Immature and Mature Love: How to tell the difference. Hopefully this information helps you recognize whether what you're feeling is immature (infatuation) love or mature (REAL) love. Immature: 1. Love is born at first sight and will "conquer" all. 2. Love demands exclusive attention and devotion, and is jealous of outsiders. 3. Love is characterized by exploitation and direct need gratification. 4. Love is built upon physical attraction and sexual gratification (OF ANY KIND). Physical closeness dominates the relationship. 5. Love is static and egocentric. Change is sought in the parter in order to satisfy your own needs. 6. Love is romanticized. The couple does not face reality or is frightened by it. 7. Love is irresponsible and fails to consider the future consequences. Mature: 1. Love is a constantly developing relationship and deepens with realistically shared experiences. 2. Love is built upon self-acceptance and is shared unselfishly with others. 3. Love seeks to aid and strengthen the loved one without striving for recompense. 4. Love includes sexual satisfaction but does not dominate other areas of life. 5. Love is growing and developing reality. Love expands to include growth and creativity of the loved one. 6. Love enhances reality and makes the partners more complete and adequate persons. 7. Love is responsible and gladly accepts the consequences of mutual involvement. Let me know if you have any questions on what something means.[/quote] I agree with what your saying. But I don't think its infatuation just because your heart beats a little different around them or you miss them when there not around. These are feelings people do experience when they fall in love and still have when there deep in love. I have been with my husband for 5 years and we have been married now going on two. And yes a relationship is work but there are plenty of times when my heart beats a little faster when I am around him and I do miss him when hes gone. Hes my other half!

[b]khakigirl wrote:[/b] [quote][b]simplysweet82 wrote:[/b] [quote][b]khakigirl wrote:[/b] [quote]With me, I never knew I was "falling" in love because it all just hit me one day. I realized that I deeply cared for my (then) boyfriend (now fiance). I cared about his feelings and I put his feelings above mine. True love is selfless. You will do anything for that person. You would die for them if need be. After awhile, the newness of love falls away and you have to work at it. You have to work at always putting their needs ahead of yours. You have to work on your conversation skills to avoid stupid arguments. You start to see the other person's flaws, but you don't want to change them. My fiance and I are doing premarital counseling and we got a sheet in our paperwork called Immature and Mature Love: How to tell the difference. Hopefully this information helps you recognize whether what you're feeling is immature (infatuation) love or mature (REAL) love. Immature: 1. Love is born at first sight and will "conquer" all. 2. Love demands exclusive attention and devotion, and is jealous of outsiders. 3. Love is characterized by exploitation and direct need gratification. 4. Love is built upon physical attraction and sexual gratification (OF ANY KIND). Physical closeness dominates the relationship. 5. Love is static and egocentric. Change is sought in the parter in order to satisfy your own needs. 6. Love is romanticized. The couple does not face reality or is frightened by it. 7. Love is irresponsible and fails to consider the future consequences. Mature: 1. Love is a constantly developing relationship and deepens with realistically shared experiences. 2. Love is built upon self-acceptance and is shared unselfishly with others. 3. Love seeks to aid and strengthen the loved one without striving for recompense. 4. Love includes sexual satisfaction but does not dominate other areas of life. 5. Love is growing and developing reality. Love expands to include growth and creativity of the loved one. 6. Love enhances reality and makes the partners more complete and adequate persons. 7. Love is responsible and gladly accepts the consequences of mutual involvement. Let me know if you have any questions on what something means.[/quote] I agree with what your saying. But I don't think its infatuation just because your heart beats a little different around them or you miss them when there not around. These are feelings people do experience when they fall in love and still have when there deep in love. I have been with my husband for 5 years and we have been married now going on two. And yes a relationship is work but there are plenty of times when my heart beats a little faster when I am around him and I do miss him when hes gone. Hes my other half![/quote] Sorry, I just assumed you were younger. I meant that if you feel this at the beginning of your relationship, it's infatuation. Once you get past the butterfly stage and start moving onto something more meaningful is when you can tell it's real love.[/quote] khakigirl, what if you were friends a long time before that and your relationship progressed from there to dating? would you still consider it infatuation?

thank you khakigirl. plus i am finding out that best friends do make the best boyfriends. i have never had someone care about me like he does, and i have never felt this way about any other guy. i can't believe that we are together. i just thank God for putting him in my life.i cannot see myself being this happy with anyone else. i have never missed anybody before they were gone except him, and it is like all i want is to spend time with him and i absolutely hate when we must say goodbye.:)

[b]khakigirl wrote:[/b] [quote]PS: Best friends make the best boyfriends (at least in my case ;) )[/quote] Haha according to my mum my best friend and I go out. I mean heck I wouldn't complain one bit if it was true but he's been hurt so much he's built a wall n it ain't coming down anytime soon. Sorry, rambling :unsure: