does the whole "waiting for Gods choice" confuse you? do you know what waiting is all about, or do you think its weird? well, i'm what i guess you could call a waiter...and i'd love to shed some light on this topic for you!:) ask w/e!

I've thought about it too, and I agree with clarinets_rock_dot_com, would shouldn't just wait our entire lives without dating, 'cause then we'll never get married. If we just don't date to date, then it should be ok. I dunno, someone explain the waiting thing to me please!

i 'wait' b/c God told me to....w/e he has in store for me will be way better than anything or anyone i could ever find or 'date'...and i wont date until He tells me to..... i wait for God to tell me to date...... im not just waiting for God to tell me to get married......i mean that will happen later on after ive dated..... and i mean i dont believe that 'waiting' the way im waiting is for evry1....but i do think that evry1 should talk with an adult who is mature in their relationship with Christ to consider when and who they should date...... in my opinion u shouldnt date until after highschool....i mean bc how many of u honestly are thinking about marrying some one at ur highscool......i mean if u are then u are very lucky to have some1 so quickly...... anywho i have more to say but im out of time...ill finish this later....

[b][color=#FF0000][size=4]Well heres what I think, what God wants is for one guy and one girl, to be madly in love[/size][/color]. FOREVER. no heartbrakes are in his plan, no fickle relationships were ever his choice for any of us! Dating, is like practice marriage. that unfortunatly ends many times in divorce! And I'm not "booing" ALL dating. God can still bring us together through it. But its better to wait. Why? Because when you date, what happends? If your like me, you slowly create a little graph in your head, all about that person. You line them up with how they fit with you, they're likes and dislikes, habbits and hobbies, and you hold that in your mind forever. Whats more, they are permenently on your heart forever, in a place that was meant for only one guy/girl. So when you finally< find the ONE...he has much less room in your heart. [color=#000080]He will always[/color] be compaired to all the other guys that were in your life. How great to kiss someone, and know that he isn't thinking about another girl? or vice versa? Its so beautiful, so perfect. This world promotes dating like wild fire. they say "you HAVE to date, otherwise, you'll never know, NEVER FIND HIM/HER!" Thats so wrong. We are made to need< someone, something to hold onto, to tell everything, to be comforted by. But what we always forget is, that someone is God! not some guy/girl! Ok, ok, so now you may be thinking, "thats fine. but I need something that I can touch!" lets put it this way...say your on a jog, your really really thirsty, and dont think you could possibly wait until you get home for a drink. What will you do?? no houses are near, only lakes, ponds, and puddles...do you just stop and take a drink? Even though you have [color=#008000]no idea [/color]whats in that water? Or wait for a cold glass of water. with ice. and a couch to sit on, at home? Its your choice! You can push it, work hard at getting home, or make your way slowly along, tasting all sorts of water, and hopeing it wont mess you up big time. waiting is hard, but its the challange of saving yourself, that makes the reward[color=#800080] all the more beautiful[/color].[/size][/color][/b]

oh, and something cool also. When you date, people tend to warp into someone else. They pretend a lot, like they are more like you then they really are, or just pretend they are someone else then they really are. BUt if your not dating, you can still have guy/girl friends, and get to know them. but no pressures of dating are involved. YOu can get to know the real them. Watch them in different things, and you wont have to wonder how they really react. because your not dating, they have no reason to pretend! Its cool to build lots of great friendships that way, no worries. And if God wants you to get to know someone better, he will place that on both your hearts. Then you can pray about it. Putting everything in Gods hands, you dont have to worry about screwing anything up.

Well, this is a topic of interest now isn't it? I have only ever had one boyfriend and it was really ugly and it ended with heartbreak...for me at least. The thing with that is, that was all it took to "learn me the hard way" as my grampa put it. I don't regret what happened with the relationship, I learned some lessons that have proven to be invaluable. I know now that I will only ever date one more guy and he will be the one I spend my life with. God is revealing to me in little bits who he is. I know that I don't know him, but God is showing me his heart. That is how I will know. I won't have to date 50 more guys to find him. If God can part a sea and raise the dead, then I think He can lead the right guy to me at the right time. Right now I am just enjoying falling more in love with God and letting Him change me into the person I need to be.

MsKiraLynn, I never said God couldn't use bad relationships to grow us. He can, we could have evoided the pain of a broken relationship if we had learned all this before hand. But God uses it anyway. Its like stubbing your toe...you dont have to stub your toe, to know it'll hurt. Someone can tell you, "hey, if you run your foot into that board there, you'll stub your toe, and it'll smart something aweful" then you wont. And you'll be none the wiser than if you really had stubbed your toe. YOu see where I'm coming from?? God will use our mistakes, but that doesn't give us an excuse to make them. God has used many mistakes in my life to teach me, but I will always wish someone had warned me before hand.