-now that I know there are other people from school on the forums, i erased this post to avoid any gossip being started. she said she told her mom, and her mom talked to his mom. his parents have been keeping an eye on him, and nothing that I know of has happened yet.-

are you sure he isnt kidding?

[b]meownip wrote:[/b] [quote]are you sure he isnt kidding?[/quote] she said he sounded like he was dead serious and she showed me some of his texts. you could easily tell how in love with her he was. she was totally out of it today. she was freaked out.

i would be too... im not really sure what i would really do in a situation like that. so.... *waits for madhatter, lil-rush, or keyseya to come*

Awesome. My name's on that list. :P Well, speaking from slight experience here (not marry or die, but die if breakup in general)... I would say that friend needs to alert her parents, have her parents alert his (with the evidence) and then let him down gently if she wants to say no to him. That way, if he tries anything, his parents are keeping a close eye on him to keep him from doing anything, and her parents are there to protect her. The guy's being one of a few things: 1) manipulative- he won't do anything, he'll be depressed, but he's just saying it to get her to say yes. 2) serious- the guy has serious problems that she won't ever be able to fix, and neither will he if he's trying to alone. He needs some pro. help and soon, and his parents can help get him that. Tell the parents that you're seriously worried for his physical safety, and request that they look into getting some kind of help for him before he gets out of hand. 3) mentally abusive- he's manipulting her and will either continue to chase after her if she says no, or will actually try something (most likely unsuccessfully) or call her threating to do it there and then to attempt to force her to give the answer he wants out of her own fear. Yes, that's abuse. It's forcing her into a corner, and that's soo very wrong. If she does stay with him, it can get much worse. So yeah, Definately alert the parents, her's first. Show them the texts, the emails, the IM's, whatever there is to show, then have a meeting with his parent/parents and see what they can do to help him or watch him. With this, it's not best to break up face to face. That provides more oppertunity for #1 & #3. (see above) But let his parents know when she's planning on doing so, so they can really keep close watch. If his parents are really good at parenting, then they'll get him help first, possibly check him into a hospital for evaluation if he's serious, as he has more problems than can be fixed alone. That way nothing happens to him, and he gets the picture that she says "no." Really pray about it too. God has his plans, and everything will work out for His good. :) Always remember that. Keep us updated.

she wasn't at school today so I don't know what's up. I'll call her though so I can tell her that.

Do her parents know? Tell someone. It doesn't matter who. Tell your parents, her parents, a teacher, a preacher.... The list goes on. Someone just needs to be told. I will be praying.

maybe she should tell him that she's a little overwhelmed with everything he told her and that she needs some time to think about it ? idk this is why i have never been involved in a serious relationship lol