Why is purity being shunt today by our society? How do you really feel about staying pure tell marriage?why's there so many teens afriad to stay pure?Does no one want to stand up for this belief? I have sat in my school caffateria and watched so many , young , inconciet girls walk by pregnet. I couldn't help but feel pitty for them? Where is there mother ? Has anyone ever told them that you don't have pre-marrital sex? I think alot of teen girls today try to associate "Purity" with religion and say that they can't stay that way and be cool. Well there wrong ....very wrong! How is staying pure a christian label now too? I don't know if anyone well agree with this or not? But I want to help young gurls understand that purity is a way of life. If you save yourself for the right one god provides for you , he will respect you number one , and you won't have to worry about carrying around someone else's sex life. Cause when you sleep with one person , you sleep with there history , with there partner ect. How did relationships get to the point that you can't function with out having sex? I have a perfectly good relationship , where we don't have sex and just focuse on the relationship and pleasing GOD! I've seen many christian girls just throw away there purity to this meaningless cycle. How can we stop it? I know it's terribly hard to do this with the media surrounding everyone with sexual things. We need to stand to together though, I try to tell as many teenagers my age about staying pure as I can. I hope that those of you out there that agree with me will do the same. How about we look into educating thease girls instead of leaving them to the side. Don't just go for the ones who haven't had sex yet , try and tell the ones who have, some of those poor girls are trying to do it again ,making it there second child!! If you agree please help me.

Post edited by: lilred4ya, at: 2006/09/29 14:10

Purity is a hard thing to maintain. keeping your mind and body pure is difficult. i am still a virgin, but keeping my mind pure is probably harder for me than nething else.

Purity is probabaly shunned by society, because sex before maraige is a thing of the world. God tells us not to live like the world does, so that is why we must stay pure until marraige, and most people that live like the world are lost and don't know any better. We need to reach out to others about purity so that they can make the right decisions. We should also pray for each other to keep pure minds and hearts, 'cause I know that it's hard to do that.

jus on this purity how far is to far?

My pastor one time said that too far is when you have to ask a pastor if you just went too far with your boyfriend. For me too far would be ... well, really much of anything since I don't have a boyfriend. But if I did then too far would be tight front hugs, prolonged kissing, fondling, anything where our private parts were touched. Some people think that oral sex, mutual masturbation, etc. is not really sex, but my opinion is: sex is sex is sex. In other words, if it involves the privates of either person (does not have to be both) then it is sex.

[b]erinmarie87 wrote:[/b] [quote]My pastor one time said that too far is when you have to ask a pastor if you just went too far with your boyfriend. For me too far would be ... well, really much of anything since I don't have a boyfriend. But if I did then too far would be tight front hugs, prolonged kissing, fondling, anything where our private parts were touched. Some people think that oral sex, mutual masturbation, etc. is not really sex, but my opinion is: sex is sex is sex. In other words, if it involves the privates of either person (does not have to be both) then it is sex.[/quote] well said i completly agree! oral SEX, anal SEX any thing that ends in SEX is SEX!!! i don't care wat the circumstance is, it is all SEX! i also believe that if u make the emotional decision to have sex, but in the end chicken out, or stop because it hurts or if u get caught, then u r no longer a virgin. it is the decision that in my opinion counts!!!! sorry i kinda got carried away, but i think that is what our society is lacking, people that don't get carried away with something that means alot to them!!! that is all i have 4 this rant!! i'll probably write something later. cya lexi

Post edited by: LexiPoo, at: 2006/11/10 23:19

[quote]I want to help young gurls understand that purity is a way of life. If you save yourself for the right one god provides for you , he will respect you number one , and you won't have to worry about carrying around someone else's sex life. Cause when you sleep with one person , you sleep with there history , with there partner ect.[/quote] i agree..... i am still a virgin and proud of it. when i tell my friends this, i do it without shame or fear, even though they may laugh i still say ' yah but you aint gunna be the one laughing when u find out u have an std and i don't ' i think the whole reason why these young girls are doing this is so they can fit in, they're trying to fulfill something in their hearts, or they don't knwo what they want but all they do want is to be accepted. but studies do show that the girls that have a sturdy relationship with their dad's are most likely to remain abstinent throughout highschool and maybe until marriage. so when you help these girls, take a good look at their homelife first, because i've noticed the ' skanky' or ' loose ' girls that i know either have divorced parents or no dad. My youth pastor did a series on love, sex, and dating. and throughout the whole series he mentioned abstinence, even if he didn't say the word. These girls need to understand that christianity in itself is not just a religion, but also a faith and a lifestyle that honors God. And with it comes purity, because someone could be pure without believing in Jesus. p.s a good rule if you think ur going too far in a relationship...always leave room for Jesus... he's coming back anyways so why not save Him some room on the couch or in the movies? once u know where your relationship is headed, you can get close again... but not too close.. remember to leave room for Jesus! God Bless:)

Post edited by: kAiLeE_xOxO, at: 2006/11/11 16:19

Purity is the most sacred thing about a woman - I promise you if you stay pure until God sends the right husband - you wil NEVER regret it! Start praying for your husband and children NOW - even before you meet them! If the peer pressure is a problem for Girls then my advice is to tell other girls "ANY DAY OF THE WEEK I CAN BE JUST LIKE YOU BUT YOU CAN NEVER EVER GO BACK TO BEING JUST LIKE ME!" Let them know that this is special. And for all the girls that have made the wrong decision... help them to understand that God is a forgiving GOD and that we all have the ability to repent and CHANGE our ways - Live in your Freedom!!! You don't have to feel stressed or pressured to have sex. If there were more young people standing up for purity, then the peer pressure could be reversed. Stay pure and I will pray for your future marriage and children! God Bless!!!

Putting blame on one thing is a hard thing to do. You could easily argue about media being the problem becuase we are being desensitized towards many things and sex is a regular occurance on tv with many partners. It is looked on as normal, which is a terrible thing. You could also argue that parents are too fault and i believe this is where it all starts. Parents must instill a sense of what is right and wrong in their kids and to help thier children grow up in a godly and respectful lifestyle, boys should be taught how to respectfully treat girls and girls need to learn that love must be gained through a strong relationship that involves God, and that we don't need to have sex to be loved. My parents have taught me many values that i do my best to stay true to. When we talked about purity in my youth group and we asked how far is too far my pastor said that once you begin to be "turned on" that is too far and you need to stop and step back. That means anything from a kiss to a hug, to anything in between. I have a bf and am proud to say i am a virgin. We have boundaries and we stick to them because we both belive its right. Respecting one's boundaries should be taught in school better. I hope this kinda makes sense to everyone.

I agree with you, aav_jewel. Something a speaker once said was that 'so many people ask "how far is too far?" but that souldn't really be our question. Our question should be "what is pleasing to God in this relationship?" By asking "how far is too far?" most people are really asking "how far can I go physically and still get away with it and not be sinning?" Do we really want to push things all the way to that line?' I had never really thought about it that way before, but that speaker's words have definitely stuck with me. Another thing that I think is incredibly necessary is for people to set their physical boundaries [i]before[/i] getting into a relationship. Once you are in a relationship, it's hard to make yourself draw lines. However, if you prayerfully set physical boundaries for yourself, choosing them between you and God, then you won't have to wonder once you are in a relationship. I'm not saying that staying true to those boundaries will automatically be easy, because it won't, but it will help you so much because you will have already made the commitment.