I've liked this guy for about a year and a half, and he's liked me too. But everytime he is single, it's like he doesn't really like me. First he went out with my best friend, then with a girl with a bad reputation, and now he goes out with a friend of me & my sister who also happens to practice witchcraft. Everytime we are alone, we end up kissing, and then I tell him that I know he really doesn't like me, and that no matter what happens, he will never really truely like me the same way he used to. Last year he was emo, and this year he got saved and his reallt into Jesus. Well, Sunday night we were on the back on the church van, where obviously we would be seen by SOMEONE, and wound up actually making out. Monday I went to school,and it was the only thing on my brain. The thing that was going through my mind wasn't "YAY!I KISSED HIM!!!", but "WAY TO LET YOUR COLORS SHINE...NOT!". And then my friend Courtney (who also is the lead singer of our band TAKEN) threw it in my face by saying, "My little sister saw it, and now she's probably going to tell her mom, and she's not going to be able to come to church.". That made me feel even worse about it. Now I am really considering avoiding him, because I know if his girlfriend finds out, she'll be REALLY mad at me. What should I do?

Wow, girl... [b]major[/b] red flags here. You're 13. Being this physical is a really bad idea right especially because of your age, but it would be just as true for older girls. The fact that he's dating around so much and is cheating on his girlfriend with you (sorry, I'm not going to sugar-coat it) shows huge character flaws in this guy. You say he's a new Christian, but it doesn't sound like he's trying to change much in this area. To me it sounds like you are putting your witness in serious danger. I cannot urge you strongly enough to separate yourself from this guy and not to get into relationships like this right now. For your witness, safety, and emotional well-being, please wait.

I definitely agree with stratcastle...you are 13. How are you supposed to witness to nonchristians when you made out with someone who was already dating? You should definitely distance yourself and not look back. It does not look like he is trying to change since becoming a christian. Being way too physical at such a young age can lead to so many more things later on in life that you do not want. You should concentrate on developing your relationship with God first.

Post edited by: livin4Him17, at: 2006/11/23 01:16

Thanks A LOT!!! And also,thanks for not sugar-coating it,because I don't sugar-coat it either. ps-u give really good advice!!!