when is it going too far with your bf? is just making out with him too far?i just want someone to answer this for me? i think i know my limits, and i know the line that i won't cross, but could some of the other stuff just be too far while dating? :blink: i have read what the bible says but i just need some clarification because it is such a deep topic.

Well im the kind of person that dusnt really care but i hav strict limits and making out dusnt cross my line. Me and my bf hold hands even in church we hug all the tym lyk intense hugging too and iv kissed his cheek but thats as far as we hav got for now. Iv kissed another bf lyk on the lips but we didnt get far enuf to making out. The guy im dating rite now seems totally perfect but i cant assume that im gonna marry him so im not goin farther than making out and i rlly dont think any1 shuld but thats ur choice how far u get with this boy. Just think things over b4 u do anything. Just dont be lyk laying on top of ur bf and dont let him touch u in ways u kno he shuldnt. Dont lead him on and ull feel just fine where u r. Hope this helped.

thanx, it did help and i know that i will not do anything that i am not comfortable doing and he won't do anything that i am uncomfortable with, so i think i am okay with him. i know that i need to pray for God to give me wisdom to know when enough is enough.

for me making out is crossing the line. you may say i have strict limits but really, what does making out with a guy achieve? momentary pleasure? i think it just leads you further down the slippery slope of doom (you have heard of that haven't you?). i also think people nowdays make their relationships a show, like who can go the futherest. for me holding hands, hugging and a peek on the cheek is enough until im married.

[b]keyseya wrote:[/b] [quote]for me making out is crossing the line. you may say i have strict limits but really, what does making out with a guy achieve? momentary pleasure? i think it just leads you further down the slippery slope of doom (you have heard of that haven't you?). i also think people nowdays make their relationships a show, like who can go the futherest. for me holding hands, hugging and a peek on the cheek is enough until im married.[/quote] but i mean it is not like we makeout in public. if we do ot somwhere by ourselves. i don't think you should parade your relationship around, but you should be proud of it if you are happy in it. it is not to see who can go the furthest.

[b]sonworshipper wrote:[/b] [quote][b]keyseya wrote:[/b] [quote]for me making out is crossing the line. you may say i have strict limits but really, what does making out with a guy achieve? momentary pleasure? i think it just leads you further down the slippery slope of doom (you have heard of that haven't you?). i also think people nowdays make their relationships a show, like who can go the futherest. for me holding hands, hugging and a peek on the cheek is enough until im married.[/quote] but i mean it is not like we makeout in public. if we do ot somwhere by ourselves. i don't think you should parade your relationship around, but you should be proud of it if you are happy in it. it is not to see who can go the furthest.[/quote] I think its even worse in private, means there is no one there to stop you going further and doing something you will regret. The temptation is greater. I definatly agree when you say you should be happy to be in your relationship, who'd want to be in one where they aren't? But you see we should have God in the centre of all our relationships, do you think he'd give the ok for you two to be alone and getting physical? No. We should set the boundaries for our relationships by God's standards and not the worlds. The world says its ok to make out with your boyfriend. God doesn't.

but i know when to stop. i would never let myself cross the lines i have drawn and i laid them by God's standards. so the way i see it is that if the Holy spirit does not convict me about it, i'm okay. i know that if i ever feel like we are going the wrong way to just stop and take some space.

hmmmm from the sounds of things you have already made up your mind about this topic but i see what you saying. however ponder this, what if you dont feel like your going the wrong way until you'v gone too far? also, the way you see it? surely you have prayed about this before you entered into a relationship with the guy so shouldnt it be what God has told you? we shouldnt be the ones that decide how far is too far, God should and im not sayin it doesnt vary but unless you have God in the centre of this relationship you arent really honouring him with it. (hope that made sence)