I'm rlly close to this girl angel,and her cousin goes to our church well he told me that he likes me about 2 weeks ago and he's rlly nice and sweet but a couple of my friends including angel think I like him when I told them I don't,and angel asked me why I talk to him if I don't like him I told her I don't wanna hurt him,he was kinda upset when I told him I didn't like him like that and that I don't want to date any1,and this other girl Alyssa found out about it and she's told like ten ppl that I was a jerk to him and that I'm trying to win him back,I'm rlly mad and I kinda want to punch Alyssa in the face cause one minute she's my friend the next thing I know she's talkin about me behind my back TO my ex who is also like my best friend,she told him I was a slut!!! I've tried talking to her but I can only say like 5 words before she walks away help me please!!!!

Pray. And if the only reason you are talking to this guy is because you don't want to hurt him...I don't know...just doesn't seem right. The reason you should be talking to him is because you enjoy his company and his friendship. And if you really are so concerned people think you are a jerk, look at it this way. If they are your real friends and they really know you then they won't think you are a jerk. Now go do your homework and clean your room.

[quote] a couple of my friends including angel think I like him when I told them I don't[/quote] Well, that's their problem. If they don't believe you, then just leave it alone. It's not your fault. [quote]and angel asked me why I talk to him if I don't like him[/quote] So, you can't talk to someone of the opposite sex without liking them more than just as a friend? *face/palm* I get so tired of hearing that. Again, that's her problem. Clearly, if she believes that you can't talk to him without liking him like that, then she's immature. [quote]and this other girl Alyssa found out about it and she's told like ten ppl that I was a jerk to him and that I'm trying to win him back[/quote] Fact of life: Pre-teen/teen girls are sneaky. They talk like that. It happens. I know it sucks. I've been through it myself, but that's just how it is. Ignore the fact that she's talking. You know the truth and God knows the truth, and that's all that matters. [quote]I'm rlly mad and I kinda want to punch Alyssa in the face cause one minute she's my friend the next thing I know she's talkin about me behind my back TO my ex who is also like my best friend,she told him I was a slut!!![/quote] Being mad is just a waste of time. Overlooking it can be hard, but sometimes you just have to. Like I said before, pre-teen/teen girls are sneaky and they like to gossip. If you're angry at her and trying to "get even", you're only giving her more material to gossip and annoy you with. I'm sorry she called you a slut, but again, you know the truth and God knows the truth. That's all that matters. [quote]I've tried talking to her but I can only say like 5 words before she walks away help me please!!!![/quote] I'm sorry about that. Sounds like she's very stubborn. Pray for her. Ask God to lead you to do what's right in the situation. She might be avoiding you in person, but sometimes an email, a text message, or a hand-written letter can get a response. Take the time to write down how you're upset with her and ask if you can work this out. Don't threaten her or try to pick fights. That only makes it worse. I hope all this helps. And, as a side note: correct punctuation, good grammar, and capitalization never hurt anyone. ;) It makes the posts easier to read.

[b]HannahNoBanana wrote:[/b] [quote]And if the only reason you are talking to this guy is because you don't want to hurt him...I don't know...just doesn't seem right. The reason you should be talking to him is because you enjoy is company and his friendship.[/quote] I like this. This is a good point.

I do enjoy his company and his friendship. and I guess I should explain more,I talk to him all day almost everyday,they think I like him cause I talk to him alot

and I have been praying for Alyssa,and for me that I won't get so mad at her and that I won't want to hit her

A tip with a friend like that: It's great that you're forgiving and praying for her and all, but if she's continuing to do this then perhaps the best course of action would be to drop her from your contacts. I'm not saying shun her and bash her like she is you, but just stop talking to her, stop hanging around her, just let her go, and let it be shown that you no longer wish to be around her. She doesn't sound like the kind of "friend" that you can count on. Sure, she'll talk for a little while about you, but when she finds that there is no conflict whatsoever, then she'll become bored with it. She'll question why she's doing so, and then walk away as well.