I decided I should ask some girls how they would respond to this situation. My closest friend, is a guy, who I used to like, and he was aware of this, and for a time, liked me back. Never asked me out, just said he liked me back. Well, that was last school year, at a Christian school. This school year, (we both started going to public school for the first time), he started dating this other girl, who I don't know if she is a Christian, didn't even tell me about it until atleast a week later, and acted as if everything was normal. Lately, we haven't been as close, he acts all buddy-buddy, but it hurts because its not really true. It's like he's a completely different person now. I don't know him, I want to confront him about it, but I don't know if this is the wisest solution. Last time I did that, I hurt him, and myself. But then lately, his "buddy-buddy" treatment of me has left physical bruises. Fortunately you can't see them. So, I'm hoping for ya'll's insight on this issue. I have all weekend to think about this, but that is it. :dry:

Hey, if he is hurting you, then that is totally wrong and you need to get away from him and stay away! I've heard that once the abuse cycle starts, it never truely ends, so you will get hurt again if you continue to hang around with him. You should try to talk to him again in a nice way, but make sure you have a couple of friends or an adult to back you up so he can't hurt you. I really hope I helped you! PM me if you need to. God Bless you!!!

Well idk the entire situation so i'm not sure exactly how you should handle this, but I would definately tell him to stop acting all buddy buddy. Especially sicne he's leaving bruises on you. I don't think i would confront him about his girlfriend though or anything like that. I would just tell him to stop doing w/e it is he does that causes you to bruise. And if he's doing it in a dangerous type of way then you should make sure you do as horsechic says and make sure you're safe and an adult is with you. Post edited by: Emmy89, at: 2006/09/15 23:37

Post edited by: Emmy89, at: 2006/09/15 23:38

When I say buddy-buddy, I mean along the lines of supposedly best-friends for a minute, then he leaves me standing there. And when he does bruise me, its because he's playing around and he doesn't realize his own strength yet. I'm still not sure what I should do. He also doesn't seem to be right with God anymore, but then, that's not my place to say so.

This might sound kind of childish, but it tends to work. There are certain faces that girls make when they're disgusted, but it seems like all of us have that one expression that says "You just went too far, and I'm [i]seriously[/i] distgusted this time" They tend to wisen up after getting on of those. (I hope that made sense - I'm thoroughly exhausted at the moment, so I'm not sure if that will be understandable)