[b] Hi girls, I need advice, help and encouragement. I don’t know how to tell you that happened in a few words. But I’ll try not to make this to very long. Here’s my problem. I met this awesome guy a few 14monthe so just over a year ago. I got to know him very well and I love him like a brother, But then he asked my father to date me, to my surprise my dad agreed to me dating this guy Tyler. So we had been dating for 4 months when he was kind of pressuring me into doing things I was not comfortable doing. I told my best friend about it. And he encouraged me to confront Tyler and If he wouldn’t stop I should break up with him. So I did. I met him in my favorite little town in front of a coffee shop we use to always go to, I told him how I was feeling, and he got really mad, saying that he grew up differently then I, and that I was blaming him for everything! It really broke my heart, but I told him if he wouldn’t try to understand me, I would have to break up with him! He drove off, and as soon as tears started to fill my eyes and I felt like I was about to fall apart, there was my best guy friend, holding me up I didn‘t know he was there but he was around the corner just in case, Tyler didn’t see this he had just turned off the street, And as soon as I was feeling so comforted, my heart stopped. I heard the loudest banging and crashing sounds as if the buildings around me where tumbling down on me. I knew at that moment something had happened to Tyler. I took off in the direction Tyler drove. As soon as I turned off the street I saw it! A Simi-truck had crashed into Tyler’s car. His car was on fire the man from the Truck was fine. Me and my friend pulled Tyler from his distorted & destroyed car. My bloody boyfriend slipping in and out of consciousness, I screamed for my friend to go get help. Neither of us had cell phone service in this town, so he ran to the coffee shop. Tyler lying my lap just looked at me telling me he loved me and that he was sorry. And some other things I couldn’t make out. I Just prayed and prayed over him telling him to hang on for me. Tyler has been in and out off a coma, for over four weeks, the doctor says Tyler might very possibly have serious brain damage if he ever comes out of the state he’s in. sometimes he talks, But the doctor says even when I’m not around the few times he ever says anything its about me! The doctor also says maybe Tyler feels like he hasn’t done something maybe something had happened before the crash and he was unsettled and needed answers and that he has unfinished business. Of course the Doctor saw the look on my face and asked what happened between Tyler and I the day of the crash,. But I am just so afraid that if I talk to Tyler about it. He’ll let go! And Die the doctor never really said that if Tyler’s soul is rested that he’ll come back to us, he said that Tyler will feel assured that everything’s ok, and he’ll be able to rest. {DIE] Now some of my friends including that best friend of mine are going on this camping trip. I don’t know if I should go. What if Tyler wakes up while I’m gone, or he starts talking a little bit again. I know I could go in there and talk to him now and he’d probably hear me. But I want to hear him answer. I want Him to come back! I want to say I’m sorry! I don’t want him to die! I know its God will. But what should I do! The gilt is killing me, and if he where to die, it would be my fault! His family would never forgive me, and neither would I. @ least right now he’s here and I still have hope! Thank you for reading all of this, please pray for me, and Tyler. [/b]

Wow I really feel for you. After all that happening. I will be praying for you. About the camping trip if i were you i would stay home because i would be so worried if i were in that situation(but then again i am not so good at giving advice).

Wow, I am very very sorry, chica. That's a ridiculously painful and confusing situation. My advice would be to talk to him, even if he's in a coma right now. It's only selfish to wait for a time that may or may not come. Take the chance that he can hear you, and explain yourself to him. Even in his condition, you still have to be honest with him about how you felt before the crash and how you feel now. If he wakes up, you can talk about it more. If he doesn't, well, at least you've given him the gift of peace and closure about the situation. I'll pray for his salvation if it's the latter case, and either way, I pray that God speaks through you when you do talk to him, and that He gives you both courage, love, wisdom, and acceptance. One thing - you have to know that no matter what happens, the crash was not directly your fault. People get in fights all the time. Usually nothing happens, and every once in awhile, the anger people have gets the best of them. Tyler was angry. He let his anger take over, and wasn't paying attention to his driving. You had to tell him how you were feeling in your relationship, and you didn't know it would cost something like that. It's the power of free will. Good things happen, bad things happen, and God just takes what's happens, and gives us the opportunity to draw closer to Him through those things. Draw closer to God, not more distant, and you'll be able to figure out what to do in this situation much easier than if you seperated yourself from God. I hope that helped. I will keep you in my prayers, without a doubt.

I'm so sorry. You'll be in prayers. :)

im so very sorry...i will be praying for you.....

[b]hexisxmyxrefuge wrote:[/b] [quote]Wow, I am very very sorry, chica. That's a ridiculously painful and confusing situation. My advice would be to talk to him, even if he's in a coma right now. It's only selfish to wait for a time that may or may not come. Take the chance that he can hear you, and explain yourself to him. Even in his condition, you still have to be honest with him about how you felt before the crash and how you feel now. If he wakes up, you can talk about it more. If he doesn't, well, at least you've given him the gift of peace and closure about the situation. I'll pray for his salvation if it's the latter case, and either way, I pray that God speaks through you when you do talk to him, and that He gives you both courage, love, wisdom, and acceptance. One thing - you have to know that no matter what happens, the crash was not directly your fault. People get in fights all the time. Usually nothing happens, and every once in awhile, the anger people have gets the best of them. Tyler was angry. He let his anger take over, and wasn't paying attention to his driving. You had to tell him how you were feeling in your relationship, and you didn't know it would cost something like that. It's the power of free will. Good things happen, bad things happen, and God just takes what's happens, and gives us the opportunity to draw closer to Him through those things. Draw closer to God, not more distant, and you'll be able to figure out what to do in this situation much easier than if you seperated yourself from God. I hope that helped. I will keep you in my prayers, without a doubt.[/quote] thank you, that means alot to me

wow, i'm sorry that happened, but remember its all in Gods plan. i'm praying for you, just run to God for comfort. and its not your fualt, like the other girls said, things just happen, and we all fight. But theres nothing you could have done you change what happened!

so girls, i went to see Tyler yesterday, and as soon as i started talking to him about the day of the crash, he said my name! that is thats what it sounded like! the Doctor rushed in and well i don't know what was going on with Tyler but it wasn't good! and his mom who was out side of the room heard him, she ran in, i couldn't say anymore i just couldn't stop crying i'm soo afraid that he'll die! she { his mom] said she heard what i was saying and demanded to hear the rest! I told her i'd call her...but i haven't. even if it wern't my fault, i Don't want to be blamed!!!!if i come clean with Tylers family I'll have his blood on my hands! Can i live with that!? Now i'm cutting myself again, and its gotten so bad that i lost a ton of blod last night and had to go to the ER. it's getting to a scary place!

[b]Always_Forever wrote:[/b] [quote]so girls, i went to see Tyler yesterday, and as soon as i started talking to him about the day of the crash, he said my name! that is thats what it sounded like! the Doctor rushed in and well i don't know what was going on with Tyler but it wasn't good! and his mom who was out side of the room heard him, she ran in, i couldn't say anymore i just couldn't stop crying i'm soo afraid that he'll die! she { his mom] said she heard what i was saying and demanded to hear the rest! I told her i'd call her...but i haven't. even if it wern't my fault, i Don't want to be blamed!!!!if i come clean with Tylers family I'll have his blood on my hands! Can i live with that!? Now i'm cutting myself again, and its gotten so bad that i lost a ton of blod last night and had to go to the ER. it's getting to a scary place![/quote] I don't even know what to say. you had me crying there. i'm going to go pray and get back you.

[b]Always_Forever wrote:[/b] [quote]so girls, i went to see Tyler yesterday, and as soon as i started talking to him about the day of the crash, he said my name! that is thats what it sounded like! the Doctor rushed in and well i don't know what was going on with Tyler but it wasn't good! and his mom who was out side of the room heard him, she ran in, i couldn't say anymore i just couldn't stop crying i'm soo afraid that he'll die! she { his mom] said she heard what i was saying and demanded to hear the rest! I told her i'd call her...but i haven't. even if it wern't my fault, i Don't want to be blamed!!!!if i come clean with Tylers family I'll have his blood on my hands! Can i live with that!? Now i'm cutting myself again, and its gotten so bad that i lost a ton of blod last night and had to go to the ER. it's getting to a scary place![/quote] It isn't your fault. Just keep having hope that he will live, and tell the truth. The truth will set you free. I'm still praying for you! :)