I am having major friend issues here and am hoping that you all can help me with it. For starters, I have pretty much been best friends with one of my friends for about 10 years now and my mom and her mom are even really good friends. My friend is 2 years younger than me (I'm 16 right now and she's 14), but we have always gotten along really well, until at least recently it seems. My friend lately (for well over a year I'd say) has all these popular friends at her school (all her friends are popular there) and I for one am not popular. Then my friend came over last weekend with her family for dinner and she kept begging her mom and dad to go home early 'cause she had to work on a report for school. Well, apparantly she never worked on her report, she was on myspace the entire time! What's worse is her and her mom got in a big argument over how bad she was treating me as a friend (my friend had done other things like ditching me to hang out with her popular friends from school) and it did not go well. According to my little sister (she was there visiting my friend's little sister and heard the whole argument) my friend was yelling about how ugly I was (she dragged in things ranging from how ugly my makeup jobs were to how bad of a fashion sense I supposedly have), how stupid I was, how much of an idiot I was, etx. Basically, it seems like my friend hates me and I don't get what for, besides the fact that I am not one of her popular friends! My friend is supposedly Christian too (her whole immediate family is Christian) and she seems really materialistic (she always dresses in name brand stuff like Abercrombie, American Eagle, and Hollister). Her mom tried to talk to her (hence the argument my sister told me about) and get her to treat me better, but my friend treated me as scum for the most part. My friend seems to value myspace and her popular friends more than me, which I think is really sad. I think she's embarrased for me being her friend. What do you all think and what advice can you all give me? Thanks!

I don't have very good advice... I've friends ignore me, and I know that it's really hard to go through. Most of it happened we were around 14, so your best friend is gonig to be a lot more immature that you are because of teh age difference. She's right at the point where what he "friends" think about her is very important . You need to make sure that you keep her as a friend, and keep that dorr open for her to be your best friend, but make sure that you also have soemone to talk to and lean on. Especially if she doesn't snap out of this. I love having a best friend, yet one also needs to have other close friends because you don't want to be secluded when that relationship ends for whatever reasons.

ok i have a wierd little comment..... ok i have never had a best friend thats like here that i see every day...i dont hold my friends up like that i lower my friend standard so low that every one can reach it and best friend standard so lhigh that no one could reach it exept god... o with ur situation it might hurt a lil but but stp back and wait for her to willingly be ur friend... work on lowering ur friend standards ull see that ull b happyer with alot of friends that are good than one who doesnt appeciat u... bbb<><

Post edited by: broken-but-beautifull, at: 2007/01/09 02:30

in a wierd way the same thing happend to me, me and my freind( suposetely christian) were best friends up until last year,we went to the same school up until 7 th grade(now were in 10th), my cousin came back form minisota 2005 summer hes was 18,she was 15 and they started secretely dating iligaly, and she would (sota polotely) tel me she didnt want to hang out annymore and hung with 'cooler' kids and with my cousin and forgot about me,that was a year ago and it took me forver to get over it i mean i told her everthing, she was my best friend, so after finding my new best friend at my new school, we trust eachother, and she what i want in a best freind, and she sorta went threw the same thing, but my 1st best friend, is still dating my cousin(and now there living together), she told me this summer she didnt know how to dump him and that she should have listend to me, i helped her alil but there still dating him and i dont want annything to do with her or him, my family doesnt know what to think of it, il help her give her advice but i cant talk to her the same way, so what im saying is that when she comes to her senses shel remeber you and then its yorue desicion,cuz you know the kind of person she is more than me, but il pray for both of you!!