I know a nice handful of really cool girls, that are waiting to kiss, (at all!) for that beautiful day when they kiss the guy God chooses for her. And I agree with waiting just as fullheartedly. However, I am not so sure many guys are doing this as well. I'm not "putting out an add for a kissless guy" because I'm all desperate and stuff. NOT AT ALL. thats not the point behind this post at all! no, its a question, pure curiosity. Are you waiting? Are you saving your kiss for that one girl, on that beautiful day? or do you think waiting is pointless?

i dont consider waiting to be pointless, but it is not for everyone, whether they are a girl or a guy... this is something that is really a personal conviction and an opinionthat should be respected either way

I agree that its a personal conviction, I'm not out to make guys feel bad. I just want to know if any of you are convicted of it! so your waiting? or just think its a good thing?

I'd rather wait until my wedding day.

Good answers. It's not pointless, but it is personal. Me personally- I get made fun of, even by my female friends, for similar stuff. Like I don't even want to see fully clothed people making out on TV or movies. I'll avert my eyes. For physical contact, I'm almost as conservative as the Chasidim (an Orthodox sect of Judaism). They don't believe that a man should touch a woman who is not his wife. I don't take it QUITE that far, kids and a man's mother are obviously different, and don't count, in my book. But, yeah, I don't even hug my female friends anymore. I just think of it.. Like think of the Amish.. they get made fun of all the time, like "Oh, baby, show us your ankles!" But you know what? If a man had never seen a woman's ankle, that would probably be pretty stimulating to him. Why not save everything you can for your future spouse? The Hebrew word for "keep" (as in "keep my commands" ) can also be translated as "guard." And just as we might put a wall AROUND a city, to guard it, we can likewise put a guarding wall around ourselves, to separate us from sin. We don't have to stop right where G-d clearly says "this is a sin." Why not stop before that, just to make sure that sin doesn't get close enough to put a foot in the door, and tempt us? But again, it's all personal. I don't say any of this in judgement, as I'm pretty sure I'm the only one here with my particular set of beliefs (and don't want to be judged for that). One thing I don't think has been mentioned here is this -If you're like me, and didn't grow up in the church, and the morality you were taught as a child was not G-d's morality, I will say don't let that keep you from the kind of life G-d wants for you. Don't say "well, I've already kissed somebody, or had sex with somebody, so there's no point now" Of course there is! You are a new creature! Live like it!

Personally i'm very much a prude ... as the world would call it.. and i where that title proudly. For ME.. and me alone... i dont choose to give myself away to guy after guy. Every piece and open door ... i think you leave a little bit of yourself behind. I choose not to give pieces of myself away.

I've never had a boyfriend before, but I wouldn't wanna just give myself away continually just like sillycharis said she wouldn't. I don't think there is a rule stating you have to wait to kiss until marraige, but I think if you can manage to do it, then that just makes it all more special in marraige and helps to protect against some temptations. It is a personal conviction though, just like others have said on here. Hope that helps!!! horsechic1990

I've never had a girlfriend before, and I'm 18. Most people don't believe me when I say that. They think I'm strange for never having a girlfriend. I think they're strange for thinking I'm strange. What's wrong with waiting? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!:woohoo:

Well personally I see nothing wrong with waiting, and in fact I see several good things about it. I think if one party wishes to wait the other should respect that. My girlfriend has told me she wants to wait to kiss until she knows it will be with the one she'll be spending the rest of her life with. I probably would not have chosen that boundary for myself, but I respect her in it and refrain from kissing her or pressuring her. I do take issue with the idea that when you kiss you are "giving yourself away" and are therefore somehow less whole or have less to give to your future spouse. This simply isn't true. Don't cheapen yourself.

Hey MadBobb you know what the Bible says Be not of this world... I mean living the way the Bible says trying to be pure not letting junk into your spirit, ( like watching something on tv) is weird to this world, they don't get it. I did not get it until I became a Christian. But stick to your convictions.