[color=#800080]Ok so guys, i was curious on what personal boundaries you have for your girlfriend. I know guys are more into physicalness than girls even though girls are pretty physical too (scary thought). [b]Without sex of any kind of course, but what is too close?? What is tempting for you guys?? [/b] I have a bf and we're careful of eachothers boundaries, but i see couples all the time at school haning all over eachother! It makes me uncomfortable. :( For example a girl facing him, with her whole body pressed against his. Or my friend for example will lay ontop of her bf while they are on the couch. Other examples include: spooning on the couch making out etc...[/color]

I honestly believe that a lot of this is a personal type of thing between a guy and his gf.... I will always respect the other person's boundaries in the relationship it's also kinda tough to just list out all of my personal boundaries, because I have a lot... honestly, if I ever feel tempted in any way, I would stop immediately... also, if she would feel uncomfortable at any point, that would be a reason to stop anything sexual is out of the question and so is any kind of touching (I think you understand)

I totally understand, i was just hoping you guys could give me some examples of what is and isn't ok. My friend says she's a christian and so is her bf but she doesn't seem to understand why i think this is an issue and why it bothers me. They are both very inconsiderate to others around them. They're all over eachother no matter whose their.:sick:

everyone has their strongpoints and weakpoints. it would be impossible to put a definite line on what is ok and what is wrong. kissing might not be ok for one person, while it might not even be an issue for another. it ultimately comes down to what you and your bf/gf struggle with, and whether you have god in your relationship or not.

i dont see a problem with kissing. just sex. save that stuff for marriage. as for the hanging off eachother part, i really dont mind it because i see enough of it with my friends almost every day. i say do anything you feel comfortable doing, as long as your not having "sexy time" as borat would say now i know some teen age guys can only think about sex. my friend keeps telling me that hes gonna get laid and wants to get laid in the 10th grade, which is next year....

Post edited by: rami009, at: 2006/12/12 20:10

I agree with Jim_Steele on this one.

I think Jim_Steele had a pretty good point as well. It's too soon to be sure, but I think I may have already found my future wife (and she seems to feel the same way). Even so, we have yet to do anything beyond holding hands or just me putting my arm around her. If she is ok with it, I would be ok with a little kiss at least on the cheek, but nothing past that unless we actually do get married. A couple years ago, I would have tried to go as far with a girl as I could without actually having sex. Of course, I was pretty fat, so I never even had a GF for years. Then I was pretty depressed and angry about it, but now I've realized it was a blessing in disguise. Now I'm glad that I never had a chance to compromise my current morals and I have saved myself for whoever I actually do marry. I also have a friend that really wants to go "all the way" with a girl, but he (luckily in my mind, but not in his) has yet to find a girl who will actually do anything with him. He calls himself "too fat for love" but I don't think love is what he is really looking for :whistle:

wow...this is a question that we all see differently...what might turn one guy on might be holding hands...but a different guy might be able to make out and have no problem stopping before it gos to far...I feel that in a relationship a guy and girl should talk about what is OK and not...and keep it there... That is the answer I would give face to face...but I would add to it too...well how is hanging all over a person, making out, spooning and so on uplifting God...to me it's not...you and the other person are just seeking to live in the world by acting like that world in a dating relationships...always keep purity of heart and mind and a guy that is making out and mess around with a grill will not be able to keep a pure mind when they are alone (sorry I know you guys on here will not agree with me but it is true...stop lying to yourself)...

In theory, I agree that Jim's guideline is a good one, but I also agree that it is too personal an issue to have a universal limit. I personally would not be offended if I found out someone had kissed my wife's hand or cheek, so you never can tell what the other person's future spouse will be like...

oaky so im a girl..... but i read in a book that u shouldnt do anything that u couldnt do in front of ur father........lol.....that slims it down doesnt it! u can chekc it out in "i kissed the girls and made them cry" by: lisa bevere!